7 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore

It’s the words nobody wants to hear: “I don’t love you anymore”. Yes, it’s heartbreaking, and it will probably leave you feeling crushed, disappointed, and beyond sad for several weeks. But knowing the signs before it gets to that point can really help you out and prepare you for an inevitable terrible conversation and breakup.

1. He Doesn’t Talk as Much
I’m sure you and your partner are used to talking for hours on end, even about the most random conversations. You’d spend all day texting each other (even though you might be at work or school!) and chatting on the phone until the wee hours of the morning. But suddenly that’s stopped. Suddenly he barely ever responds to your texts, or sends a one word answer. He never calls, and he seems incredibly distant when the two of you talk face to face. Sure, there might be some troubling times going on in his life, but that’s no excuse to completely cut the communication- especially if he’s not giving you an incredibly good reason for his behavior.

2. He’s Not Interested in You
Remember when he used to compliment your gorgeous hairstyle or new dress? Remember when he would ask you out to see a movie he knew you’d adore or take you to that restaurant you can’t get enough of? It seems like lately you could change your hair from blonde to purple and blue and he wouldn’t take a second look. In fact, he’s acting completely disinterested in everything about you. He doesn’t even ask about your day or how you’re feeling!

3. He Doesn’t Care About What You’re Doing Without Him
When you’re in a relationship, you always wonder what he or she is doing when you’re not around, and you definitely don’t want your partner living it up at the club or getting knocked-out-cold drunk at a party without you. But if he suddenly seems to not worry OR care about what you are doing or who you are doing it with, this is a BIG red flag.

4. He’s Busy All the Time
A man will ALWAYS make time for his lady. I don’t care if he’s working 80 hours a week, going to college full time, and working on his car in his spare time. He WILL make time for you, even if it’s just a few hours here and there. But oh, wait, he suddenly can’t find a few minutes to come see his girlfriend? Definitely something wrong with this picture. Remember girls, if there is a WILL there is a WAY. And if you’re man is constantly giving you excuses as to why he can’t hang out or is too busy to even respond to your messages, it may be a sign he’s fallen out of love with you. (Why would you want to stay with someone who has no time for you anyways, right?)

5. He’s Argumentative
Every relationship has arguments; trust me, I know that. But if every little thing turns into an instant argument, this is definitely a problem (for more reason than one!). Pay attention to what he’s getting irritated or angry about. If a simple “Hey honey how was your day?” is sending him into a fury, this could certainly be a sign he’s not into you like he used to be. And arguing that much just really sucks, so I’d probably suggest leaving him before he leaves you.

6. He Stops Doing the ‘Little Things’
Whether you have been dating a month, a year, or 38 years, the little things are important in a relationship. They are the things that make your partner feel extra special and show them how much you care about them. Now, I understand not all guys will do the little things (ever), but if your man has been notorious for showing you he cares via ‘little things’ and suddenly stops doing it, he’s either falling out of love with you or needs a friendly reminder you miss it. If the little things have slowed down considerably, bring it up to him and gage his reaction. If he’s incredibly sorry and wanting to start back up right away, then he probably just got lazy. If he’s defensive and doesn’t want to continue, he may have fallen out of love.

7. The Flame Has Died Off
No longer holding hands. Kisses feel awkward. Romance in the bedroom? Forget about it! If the two of you have completely lost your spark, this could be a major sign he’s ditching the love scene. I mean, what’s a good, loving relationship without sparks? Sounds like a dull flame that needs water thrown on it immediately!

Falling out of love is hard, especially when you’re the one still swimming in hearts and romance. Have you ever been in this heartbreaking situation? What were the signs?

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