How to Tell If A Guy Likes You Through Texting
Now, more than ever, we are totally glued to our phones. Twenty years ago it was all about the way we talked, today it’s all about the way we text. It’s nice to be able to talk to anybody and everybody every second of every day, sharing every thought and detail of your life can make you feel like you’re together even when you’re miles apart. But even though we can send words back and forth almost as fast as we can think them, it’s a little bit harder to send emotions and feelings along with them. Sometimes all of those little tiny LOL’s and OMG’s only add to your confusion – especially when you are talking to a guy you like.
Don’t Freak Out If He Doesn’t Reply Immediately
So, how can you tell if your crush’s friendly greeting is more than just friendly? The first thing you have to remember is that guys don’t think or communicate the same way girls do. Most of the time, they say what they mean and they mean what they say. If you get a one letter response it’s because they’re busy or in a hurry or because it’s faster, not because they’re mad at you. Don’t read so much into it. Most guys are pretty straight forward.
He Texts You Throughout The Day
Something else to keep in mind is that while we ladies are the queens of multitasking, most guys just aren’t. They can do one thing at a time, and they can do it well, but try to get them to walk and chew gum at the same time and see what happens. Unless, of course, they are chasing a girl. Once a guy has his sights set on his lady love, he can pursue her 24/7, all while going about his normal routine. So, if your guy is texting you when his mind should be on other things, like work, chances are you’ve tickled his fancy. He just can’t get you out of his mind.
Does He Always Text Back Quickly?
Another way to tell if your guy is trying to send some ‘more than friend’ vibes your way via SMS is to pay attention to how fast he texts you back. If he is responding within a few seconds, you know he’s waiting on your next message and is totally engaged in the conversation. Even better is when you have a meeting of the minds moment and text each other at the same time – that’s almost the definition of soul mates in the 21st century.
He Tells You Everything
Also, if any guy takes the time to fill up that little screen with detailed descriptions of his day, chances are he’s digging on you just a little bit. Especially if he’s got an old-school phone. No man is going to take the time to text you line after line on those teeny tiny number keys unless he’s got some hidden feelings. The way he sees it, he’s making a valid effort to communicate with his lady, something not to be taken lightly.
He May Just Stink At Texting
When you are wrestling with your internal “he loves me, he loves me not” demons, make sure to keep in mind that every guy is different. So is every phone. Some guys may not text back as often as you would like because their phone is a pain in the you-know-what, while others may not text you back because they’re just not that into you. To tell which you’re dealing with, you’re going to have to use a little discernment. You don’t have to go all crazy stalker or anything, but scope him out when he’s texting his buddies. Does he look comfortable with his handset, or like a bit of a novice? If he’s a bit on the slow side, don’t be too offended if he’s a bit slow to get back to you.
He Wants To Spend Time With You
Something else to keep in mind is that if a guy is really into you, he’ll enjoy a bit of a chase. Let him initiate the text sessions from time to time. If you notice he’s hitting you up pretty regularly, out of the blue, chances are you’re on his mind more often than not. If he’s thinking about you while he’s walking around his living room or dozing off at night, you might be more than the girl of his dreams, if you get my drift.
The truth is that even though the way we communicate has gotten high-tech, the thoughts and feelings we are trying to convey are the same. There is a lot to be said for trusting your instincts; that being said if you are truly wondering about the intentions of your potential Romeo, the best thing you can do is ask. Maybe something like U+ME=:) After all, it’s only a text message. It’s impossible for him to know your true emotions, either. Worst case scenario, you tell him you were only kidding LOL
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Just a girl in love with a boy
January 30, 2017 at 6:16 pm
My ex and i started texting again on snapchat and when i give him a tbh about stil having feelings for him he sendds me two blue hearts but he syas he likes my friend ellie whenever shes around but when its just us he is super flirty aen when we text he is always saying things like want to pull an all nighter and then saying no dont leave im home alone and i dont have anyone else to text and i salways trying to keep the conversation going does he like me or Ellie
web admin
January 31, 2017 at 12:54 pm
If he has told you that he likes Ellie, then he likes Ellie. He may also like you. However, it would be best for you to allow him to fade into the past. There is no reason to attempt to establish a relationship with someone who is speaking to you about someone else. Good luck, Girl!
unknown
January 29, 2017 at 9:55 am
i like this guy and i sometimes chat with him .. everytime we chat he would always says something flattering like ‘gosh i cant believe u r still single ‘ / ‘ believe me there is no one else like u ‘… but the thing is he already has a gf.. so does he likes me or ?
web admin
January 29, 2017 at 1:10 pm
He likes you, but he should not be acting in the way that he is acting. He has a girlfriend, so you would be best served by stopping him from sending you messages like that. You do not want to be the reason why he causes harm to his relationship. This will only bring you suffering in the future. Explain to him that it is not appropriate for him to be sending you messages like that as long as he is in a relationship. Have a great day, Unknown!
Korri
January 20, 2017 at 9:40 pm
I’ve recently met this guy and we’ve only hung out once but we text each other almost every day and he’s always sending emojis after his texts. Most of the time they’re laughing emojis of wink emojis. Can this mean he likes me or is just being friendly.
web admin
January 22, 2017 at 2:25 pm
It could mean either thing. The fact that he texts you all the time though shows that he could be interested. See if you can get him to hang out with you in person again–it will be much easier to flirt and see if he is flirting back with you if you do it in person.
Angela
January 16, 2017 at 4:54 pm
So I just got a divorce and my ex-husbands friend texted me at 11:00pm ( I was asleep) and said stay on the path, you and your kids deserve nothing but the best, I know you hear that a lot, but it’s the truth and we started talking the next day–then he said If you want to hang out or let the kids play that’d be cool. Is he just being friendly?
web admin
January 17, 2017 at 10:14 am
He is being friendly, though he likely wants to become closer than simply friends. If you want to become closer with him as well, then do so. However, you and your relationship may run into trouble from your ex-husband if you choose to become closer to his friend. You can hang out with him and be clear about your desire to remain friends, if that is how you feel. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great week, Angela!
Hush
January 15, 2017 at 9:57 pm
How do I tell my crush I like him. I want to but every time I try, I fail, and end up crying or something
web admin
January 16, 2017 at 11:14 am
You can speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. If you do not like the direct approach, then try to catch his eye or be coy. However, it is always be to be clear about your thoughts. Next time you are alone with him, try to talk with him about his ideas and feelings. This will give him a chance to share his mind with you. Best of luck, Hush!
Madison
January 4, 2017 at 11:50 pm
This guy that asked my number outside a store about a month and a half ago barely started texting me about 3 days ago, which was weird to me cause alot of time passed by..and if he really liked me he would of texted me the next day after i gave him my number.He sends messages and its kinda akward cause he gives short answers and i dont know how to keep the conversation going without getting boring.and he dosnt ask about my family or about my job, anything personal abouy me he always asks if i need a ride to work and i say i dont and he said that he wants to see me if its only for like 5 min..and i told him we can hang out another day..im nervous cause i dont know if his serious..cause i have never dated anyone or gone on dates.
web admin
January 6, 2017 at 1:08 pm
If you are not interested in him and you think that he is boring, then there is no need for you to speak with him. If you want to get to know him better, then it may be best to meet him in person. He may have been too shy to speak with you until recently. This is a common occurrence for people who are not active daters. Determine what you want to do and then do it. Have a great week, Madison!
Dazed and confused
January 4, 2017 at 4:12 pm
Okay so I’ve been talking to this guy for a month now and I still haven’t met him. We’re talking on Facebook and he’s sending me pictures of him and I know I really really like him. He’s always been the type that cooperates with me even though I’m so weird sometimes and do everything I ask him to do. One time I asked him “How would you describe me to someone who doesn’t know me?” To which he replied with, “Amazing, funny, she’s cute and has one hell of a personality” . sometimes he’s flirting with me and tbh I don’t know what to say. Also how do I flirt back with him? Does he like me back?
web admin
January 6, 2017 at 10:08 am
It sounds like he likes you. We actually have a few articles on Her Interest that cover flirty texts and messages–you may want to check them out and see if they give you any good ideas. It seems like he is interested in you though, so all you really have to do is keep the relationship going and he will hopefully make another move soon. Best of luck, Dazed and Confused!
Dazed and confused
January 4, 2017 at 4:41 am
Okay so I’ve been talking to this guy for a few months and I’m sure I really really like him and I don’t know if he likes me back. Sometimes we’re sending each other song lyrics and I noticed that the lyrics he’s been sending me are somewhat connected to us. I’m so confused. He always do what I say and always cooperates with me even though I’m so weird sometimes. He’s always honest with me too. I don’t understand him he said he’s shy and I know he is
web admin
January 4, 2017 at 10:09 am
He may have told you that he is shy as a hint that he likes you and is just afraid to make a move. From the sound of it, it seems more likely than not that he is interested in you. You are already doing the right things to get closer to him, so just keep it up. Continue to talk to him, flirt with him if you are comfortable with it and see if he makes another move. Best of luck, Dazed and Confused!
Jess
January 2, 2017 at 3:07 am
Hi, I’m slightly confused with guys but. I’ve been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now & his really friendly, nice very sweet. We were playing T&D once and I recently asked him “Honest opinion of me” & he said I’m “Kind, caring, nice, fun to talk to, easy to talk to & cute.” (Not sure if it’s a good thing) I also asked if he wanted to meet in the holidays (I was just randomly asking) and he said “Yes” so he actually wants to meet with me (& sometimes on occasions he asks so what day we meeting). This past week or so I’ve been messaging him but he hasn’t been answering so I got really concerned but then today I get a msg saying “Hey sorry I haven’t talked been camping” I responded back “It’s all good” Occasionally he will msg me and also he normally reads my msgs and not responds. What’s going on. So my question is what does this all mean, does he fancy me or not? I really would like to know what he thinks of me?
web admin
January 3, 2017 at 11:38 am
He is interested in you. He wants to set a date with you. The sooner that you give him a day to meet up, the better. Send him a message and ask him if he wants to hang out with you tomorrow or the next day. He will want to spend time with you. The longer you wait, the more likely it is that his feelings will become confused or worried. You do not want that. Take charge and enjoy life, Jess!
Jess
January 2, 2017 at 2:53 am
Hi, I’m slightly confused with guys but. I’ve been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now & his really friendly, nice very sweet. We were playing T&D and I recently asked him “Honest opinion of me” & he said I’m “Kind, caring, nice, fun to talk to, easy to talk to & cute.” I also asked if he wanted to meet in the holidays (I was just suggesting I didn’t really wanna, but now I do) and he said “Yes” so he actually wants to meet with me (& sometimes on occasions he asks so what day we meeting). Occasionally he msgs me or he normally reads my msgs and not responds but idk what’s going on. So my question is what does this all mean, does he fancy me or not?
web admin
January 3, 2017 at 11:37 am
He is interested in you. He wants to set a date with you. The sooner that you give him a day to meet up, the better. Send him a message and ask him if he wants to hang out with you tomorrow or the next day. He will want to spend time with you. The longer you wait, the more likely it is that his feelings will become confused or worried. You do not want that. Take charge and enjoy life, Jess!
Josmary Munoz
December 30, 2016 at 1:13 am
Hi
I have been talking to this boy and we have been talking for about 4 months now and we talk everyday we have a lot in common but sometimes its hard us to start conversations and he doesnt show his emotions or feelings with me and hes really handsome and when he puts pictures all the girl are crazy about him and i know he is talking to others girl but i kinda get it cause we arent dating but i just want to know if he likes me?
web admin
December 31, 2016 at 12:33 pm
It seems like you may have commented twice on this article. I have to answer every comment individually, so it may take a little while for it to be posted and answered. If you do not see your comment and response right away, do not worry because you will. Read through my last response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!
Bronwyn
January 22, 2017 at 7:31 am
hi I have been chatting to a millitary guy for 1 month and he said to me today he is liking me more and more .
I wanna know does he really mean it
web admin
January 22, 2017 at 4:47 pm
Yes, he probably means it. He has spent a month talking to you, so he would have to like you more now than before. If he liked you less or the same, then he would stop talking to you. As for how much he likes you, there is no way to know. Many military guys are lonely when they move to a new base and want someone to talk to, and other guys just want a fling. The only way to know what he wants is to pursue the relationship and see what happens. Best of luck, Bronwyn!
Josmary Munoz
December 30, 2016 at 1:06 am
Hi
I have been texting this guy for about 4 months and we have a lot of things in common we have been talking everyday. He always wants to see me, but he never has showed his emotions to me. He has asked what would I do if he asked me but that was a long time ago…. And i jusy dont know if he likes me…
web admin
December 31, 2016 at 12:32 pm
It sounds like he is probably interested and is just not that good at expressing himself online. He asked you what you would say if he asked you out, so he obviously wanted to know if you liked him then. He continued to talk to you after that, so it sounds like he was trying to get to know you better and work up the courage to ask you out. He may actually be hoping that your hang out time tomorrow is more of a date and less of a get-together. It sounds like he probably does like you, so go for it!
adeline
December 21, 2016 at 6:12 am
I’ve been texting this guy for a while and I do feel a connection between. We have common interests and he often replies quickly. He shares a lot of things from his life and I do as well. Recently, he’s been bringing up about this guy who I’ve liked before and keeps insisting that I like him. Is he trying to avoid me because he knows that we can’t be together? After all, there are no limits to love even in age.
web admin
December 21, 2016 at 10:46 am
Share your feelings with him about how you no longer want him to bring up this other guy. Make it clear that you would rather speak about your relationship with the guy you are currently in a relationship with. If he continues to speak about this other guy, then perhaps it would be best for you directly tell him to stop bringing it up. Try to spend more time with your partner. Best of luck, Adeline!
Aph
December 19, 2016 at 10:17 am
There was this guy who texts me anonimously and I don’t reply to any of his texts such as “Hi” or “Good morning Hi”… and he never introduce himself and that was kinda creepy, then accidentally that same number called me up and surprisingly I knew the person. We aren’t that close just wondering why he’s exerting time doing those things
web admin
December 19, 2016 at 5:50 pm
It sounds like he had a crush on you. He either thought you knew that it was him, or he was to afraid that you would reject him instead of talking to him. Whatever the case, it seems like he likes you, although he has a rather unnerving way of showing it. The question now is whether you like him back or not. Are you interested in him?
Chao
December 16, 2016 at 6:32 pm
Hi
I’m interested in a guy. We’ve been texting since summer and he went from one worf texts to paragraphs. He’s opening up really slowly and he’s shy. He usually replies everyday, sometimes he busy. I don’t want to ask him if he’s interested in me atm because it’s early but i keep wondering. He wants to meet up to play sports and hang out. I never even talked on the phone because he’s so shy. Is he just not interested?
web admin
December 17, 2016 at 8:56 am
It sounds like he could be interested. He wants to hang out with you in person, and he probably chose sports because it was an easy excuse and a way to talk to you without feeling too uncomfortable. I would keep talking to him, hang out with him and see where things go. Good luck, Chao!
Alya
November 8, 2016 at 5:16 am
So I’ve been friends with this guy for a few months and I’m not sure if he likes me or not. In person, we talk like friends and joke, but through text he’s like a different person. He always seems super enthusiastic in his texts and even if he doesn’t reply right away, he usually replies, even when I think the conversation has ended. He’s also initiated conversations a few times for random reasons. However, he’s been like that since day one and I don’t know how he texts other people, so I have no idea if he actually likes me or is treating me like his other friends…
web admin
November 8, 2016 at 11:57 am
If he is attempting to speak with you, is enthusiastic when talking, and jokes with you, then it is likely that he has feelings for you. Spend more time with him in person and share your thoughts and ideas with him. Additionally, share your hobbies and interests and learn what his are. This way the two of you can become closer. If you want to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings, then that is always a great option. Remain positive as you move forward. Best of luck, Alya!
Beverley
November 4, 2016 at 3:12 am
Hi! This guy & me have been texting each other since a year. He keeps telling me a lot about his life. Also, he keeps flirting with me regularly through texts. Recently, I told him that the girl who stole your heart is special. To which replied, “You stole my heart long back.” Is he only flirting, or is it an indirect way of telling me he loves me? He keeps telling me I’m special to him. I am in love with him, but haven’t been able to tell him my feelings, though I also keep flirting with him. I am thinking of confessing my love for him through text. But I’m afraid that if things don’t work out, he’ll have an evidence to make fun of me if I tell him through text. Hence I am resisting. We are in the same college, but it’s almost impossible for us to meet as our timings are different. Do you think texting him is a good idea? I’m totally confused!
web admin
November 4, 2016 at 6:34 pm
It is certain that he is not attempting to gather information about you so that he can make fun of you. He may be flirting and he may be showing his loving feelings. If you want to know for sure, then allow yourself to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. Share your thoughts with him and attempt to spend additional time with him. Take this risk and remain positive. Best of luck, Beverley!
Beverley
November 5, 2016 at 12:21 am
So texting about my feelings is a bad idea? Should I tell him about this in person?
web admin
November 5, 2016 at 10:17 am
I think that telling him about your feelings is a good idea. It sounds like he could like you, and he may just be too shy to make a move. You will never know for sure though unless you take a risk, tell him how you feel and see what his response is. It sounds more likely than not that he does like you though, so go for it!
Kyle
November 6, 2016 at 5:58 am
I’ve read somewhere that texting a person about your feelings is not a good idea. It’s better to tell it in person. Do you agree with this? Will texting not be a good medium? I can express myself better through text than in person. So should I text a guy about my feelings for him?
Bruh-cha-cha
December 17, 2016 at 6:34 am
i think it would be better if you did it in person. it does seem risky to do it on text. good luck to you my friend!!!!
web admin
December 17, 2016 at 9:13 am
Thanks for the added insight, Bruh-cha-cha!
Kyle
December 31, 2016 at 4:53 am
Thank you Bruh-cha-cha!
ppkk
October 31, 2016 at 10:14 pm
Hi. He’s friendly and talkative and I have no idea that we’re still just friends or any chance ?. He never asks anything about me but he just tells his stuffs. He always replies my texts and sometimes he answers very quick but no flirting at all. We’ve texted day, couple days … last time, he told me he’ll be gone a few days and the day that he’ll talk to me again. It’s not okay because I’m starting to think but he’s too friendly. So what could he probably feel? Thank you.
web admin
November 1, 2016 at 4:46 pm
It is possible that he is interested in you but doesn’t know how to share his feelings, or it is possible that he simply wants to be friends with you. Allow your friendship to flourish and see where it goes. For now, continue to remain positive and mindful about your communication. If you determine that you are confident enough to take action regarding your relationship, then speak with him honestly and directly about your feelings. Have a great day, and best of luck!
JxF
October 31, 2016 at 10:00 pm
Hi. He’s friendly and talkative and I have no idea that we’re still just friends or any chance ?. He never asks anything about me but he just tells his stuffs. He always replies my texts and sometimes he answers very quick but no flirting at all. We’ve texted day, couple days … last time, he told me he’ll be gone a few days and the day that he’ll talk to me again. It’s not okay because I’m starting to think but he’s too friendly. So what could he probably feel? Thank you.
web admin
November 1, 2016 at 4:46 pm
It is possible that he is interested in you but doesn’t know how to share his feelings, or it is possible that he simply wants to be friends with you. Allow your friendship to flourish and see where it goes. For now, continue to remain positive and mindful about your communication. If you determine that you are confident enough to take action regarding your relationship, then speak with him honestly and directly about your feelings. Have a great day, and best of luck!
.
October 28, 2016 at 10:10 pm
hey. so me and him still texting and he always reply no matter what but last wednesday he didnt reply me and i asked him “did you get my text” then he said ” i just got them im sorry” but today he didnt reply again. do you think he lied? and why didnt he reply?
web admin
October 29, 2016 at 11:40 am
He may have lied and he may not have lied. It is possible that he is busy, out of reception, or just unable to talk at this time. If you want to speak with him more, then share your feelings with him and attempt to spend time with him. Nothing will support a relationship more than being near each other. That said, do not allow your concerns to cloud your judgment and make you take action that will damage your relationship. Remain positive and mindful as you move forward!
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October 30, 2016 at 3:10 am
but hes my crush. i dont know if he likes me or not. today he didnt reply again. i was helping him about her sister and then the last time i said “you call her rn?” (for helping him) and then he didnt text back. but he posted on fb and instagram. his behavior changes.. my friend thinks he likes me bcs he cares about me. and now it seems so weird. is he playing with my feelings?
web admin
October 30, 2016 at 5:56 pm
He is likely not purposefully playing with your feelings. Your best option is to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. If you do not speak with him and hear his words, then you will forever be concerned and anxious about learning his feelings. It would be wise of you to take this time to determine which course of action you want to take. If nothing else, attempt to spend additional time with him so the two of you can become closer intellectually and emotionally. Remain positive!