How To Tell If a Guy Likes You
At one point or another, every woman has asked herself: Does he like me? It’s one of the most confusing, annoying, and nervous questions we can ask ourselves, but it’s something we are constantly trying to figure out. Make this question a bit more easy and get the answer you need with these 25 ways to tell if he really likes you- or sees you just as a friend.
1. He Seems to Smile at You. A Lot.
Don’t get me wrong. There’s always those people out there who smile at everybody and everything. They’ll smile at strangers, they’ll smile at the silliest jokes- they’ll even smile during a physics quiz. If you’re talking to a guy who has one of those never-ending smiles, he might just be doing what’s natural to him by smiling at you often.
But let’s face it: most people aren’t like that. If you catch him smiling at you often, it may be a sign that he’s into you and the sight of your face brings a smile to his lips. Pay close attention to his smile, too. Is it one of those fake, forceful smiles? Or is it a genuine smile full of love? This will really help you determine whether or not it’s a true, “I like you” smile.
2. The First Form of Flirting: Teasing
Remember back in the day on the school yard when boys would chase the girls and call them names, and everyone said it’s because he likes you? It may seem so kindergarten, but even in our later years men still use teasing as a form of flirting. If he (playfully) teases you often, then it could be a sign he’s going back to his roots and using teases to show he’s interested in you. Of course, if he is just being flat out rude about something than he’s probably not into you- in a girlfriend or a friend way- and I suggest you run for the hills.
3. Flirty Compliments That Leave You Blushing
On the other hand, maybe you’re talking to a guy who’s matured past the teasing tricks and actually knows how to flirt. If he compliments you a lot- whether it’s a simple compliment about how nice your hair looks that day or how great you performed your oral presentation- it’s probably a definite sign that he’s interested in you.
I mean, yes- it’s completely true that people will compliment each other on a job well done or a nice t-shirt. But a compliment is one thing, a flirt is another. Surely you can tell the difference by the way it’s said and what words are used. For example:
Regular compliment: I like your shirt! (Pat on the back.)
Flirty compliment: That shirt looks great on you. (Smile)
See the difference?
4. Playful, Accidental Touching
When you like someone, you want to be close to them. That’s just nature! If you find your guy friend playfully or accidentally touching you on a regular basis, it could just be his way of trying to get close to you. Some examples of playful or accidental touching would include:
-Running up behind you and picking you up for a fun hug.
-‘Accidentally’ brushing your hand while the two of you work on a project together.
-Wanting to play a silly game like thumb wars or arm wrestling.
-Patting you on your thigh after talking to you while sitting down.
5. Men Hate Phone Calls. But He Doesn’t?
We all know how much men hate to talk on the phone. When you ask them to call you, it’s like pulling teeth. Or perhaps even a root canal. Without any medication for numbing. (Yes, it’s that bad sometimes, right ladies?). But for some reason he will call you completely out of the blue, just to talk. And he actually enjoys it and says he’s had a nice time talking to you. No, he hasn’t been abducted by space aliens that changed the wiring in his brain. It’s as simple as this: man likes woman, man goes to great lengths to show that he cares. Which brings us to the random phone calls where you spend 6 hours talking about movies, sports, music, clothes, school, celebrities- whatever. So go ahead, pick up the phone. He surely didn’t call you because he hates talking to you!
6. Not Just Your Basic Text Messages
So not every guy will suddenly enjoy talking on the phone because he likes you, or maybe he’s just too busy to call you. Insert: text messages, the most convenient way to talk to another human being.
So you say he’s texting you often, hmm? Well let me ask you a question first before we jump to any conclusions. Is he texting you the basic texts like, “When are you going to be here?” or “Can I borrow your homework?” or anything along those lines? Or is texting you just because? If he’s sending you good morning texts, asking how you’re doing or what you’re up to, or trying to start an actual conversation over a text message, it may be a sign he is interested. Again, let’s do a quick example.
Friendly text: “Hey, are you coming to Mark’s party?”
Flirty text: “Hey Molly. How are you doing? I was wondering if you were going to go to Mark’s party. Can’t wait to see you!”
7. Pay Attention to His Grammar
When a guy likes a girl, he tries to impress her- we all know that! But sometimes it’s not always about incredible out of this world gestures to grab our attention and impress us, and that’s why we need to pay attention to details. If he tends to talk in slang often but really tries hard to use proper grammar and punctuation when talking/messaging you, it could be a simple sign he’s trying to impress you with his mind. Here’s an example, using the text messages used in number 6:
Friendly text: “Wassup u coming to Mark’s party?”
Flirty text: “Hey Molly. How are you doing? I was wondering if you were going to go to Mark’s party. Can’t wait to see you!”
Note how he is using bad grammar in the first text, while the second text is not only significantly longer by texting standards, but also uses proper grammar and punctuation. See ladies, even something as simple and subtle as this could be a definite sign he likes you and wants you to notice how smart he is.
8. Even Social Media Can Be a Hint!
Whether you’re both on MySpace, Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram (or any other popular social media networking site), if he likes your post often, it could be a sign that he likes you. Sure we sometimes just go scrolling down our newsfeed liking pictures we think are cute or interesting, but if he has made it a goal to like almost all of your posts, from pictures to status updates, he might be trying to show you that he cares. If he sends you comments on your posts often, that’s just another great sign he might be interested in you!
9. Make it or Break it: Eye Contact
You’ve probably heard this over and over again, but eye contact is ridiculously important, from first dates to job interviews. If you notice he’s looking at you often and makes it a point to have eye contact with you while the two of you are talking, this not only means he likes what he sees but is trying to get you to notice him as well.
Friend: Will obviously talk to you, but will probably be looking around the room or interrupting your conversation to holler at another friend. He probably won’t randomly stare at you with hearts in his eyes, either.
More than a friend: Will make it a point to focus on you and only you during conversation, and you will probably catch him staring at you often. (And he might have his jaw dropped sometimes, too- it happens).
10. Him? Sophisticated and Mature? No Way!
So he is the kind of guy to make crude jokes and mess around with his guy friends at all times. Even when there is a girl present he won’t mind being his goofy, totally immature and somewhat nasty self. But when you are around, everything changes. Suddenly he turns into a somewhat sophisticated man who is reserved and respectful, and might even tell his friends to stop with the crude humor while a lady is present. This, my friends, is one of the easiest ways to tell if a guy is interested in you. After all, he doesn’t want you to think he’s some disgusting pig with no respect for woman, so he knows to turn it off when you come around. You should not only feel honored that someone would do that for you, but feel confident in knowing what his intentions are.
11. Girl? What Girl?
When you are friends with a guy, you get used to that fact that they will probably be checking out females often. They might even make a remark to you about how cute they think the girl that just walked by is. And they won’t have a problem telling you that they’re planning on seeing Samantha from the coffee shop down the road. But if he’s interested in you and wants to be more than friends, you won’t hear a single peep out of him with regards to another female. In fact, you might notice a pretty girl walking by quicker than he does.
If you notice he doesn’t really say anything about girls or dating anyone anytime soon, you might want to ask him if he is interested in anyone. His answer will say it all!
12. Curious About Your Relationship Status
When you’re just friends, it really doesn’t matter whether you are married with three kids or never been on a date in your life. Nobody really asks, and why should they? The two of you just go out as friends having a good time- nothing else. But if your guy friend wants to know about your relationship status is or if you’re interested in anyone, he could be trying to ease his way into becoming your boyfriend. If he asks you what a guy would have to do to get you to be his girlfriend, you can definitely take this as a sign he wants you as more than just a friend.
13. “We Should Be Together. Just Kidding…”
Have you ever heard that saying that the biggest lie you could ever tell is just kidding? It seems like adding ‘just kidding’ to the end of something serious automatically turns it into an untrue, laughable joke. But the fact of the matter is, 99 percent of the time when someone says they’re just kidding about something, they really aren’t.
That being said, if your guy pal kids about you and him being an item, he might actually want it to happen. For example:
The two of you are playing video games and suddenly start laughing out loud about a joke only the two of you would find funny. As the wave of laughter comes to an end, he jokingly says “We would make the perfect couple.” Let’s face it ladies, he probably isn’t joking. And if this kind of thing happens somewhat often, I’d take that as a definite sign he wants you.
14. Where Are You Two Going?
Pay close attention to where you guys go. Do you do the basic friend thing, like go to parties together, hang out downtown, or do a lot of other group activities with the rest of your friends? Or are your hangouts a bit more romantic, with just the two of you? If the bulk of your adventures are done in group, you’re probably just friends- or he is trying not to be so obvious. But if he asks you to do a lot of one on one things, he might be trying to get to know you better and see if the two of you are a match made in heaven.
15. Oh, You Shouldn’t Have!
There is a huge, huge, huge difference between doing a friend a favor, and doing something especially sweet for someone. If he gave you a ride home from work one day, I wouldn’t get carried away and assume he likes you. But if he does a lot of nice things for you on a regular basis, like buying you those special shoes you couldn’t afford or offering to pick you up from work every single night, there might be more to it than just a friendly gesture. Pay close attention to this, as this can sometimes get confusing. You wouldn’t want to mistake kindness for love!
16. Your Knight in Shining Armor
It’s the male instinct to protect the woman you love- and if you notice he is acting more like your knight in shining armor than your best guy friend, it’s a possibility he’s into you. It could be as simple as telling some people to stop saying mean things about you to completely going berserk on a guy who shoved you in public. Whatever his knightly duty was, don’t take it lightly. He not only did this to protect you, but impress you and show he cares for you and your safety.
17. The Green Monster Pays a Visit
When you like someone, you get jealous- that’s nature. Whether it’s an innocent flirt or they are talking about being with someone else, the little green monster pops his head up instantly. If he gets jealous about you talking with other guys or mentioning other guys, this is a definite clue he likes you.
18. Remembering the Finest Details
Remember when you told him you broke your arm when you were 5? Yeah, he just so happened to remember that. He also remembers about that silly joke you said a couple months back that had him rolling on the floor laughing during the Christmas party. Men are notorious at forgetting things, especially the fine details. If he seems to remember all that and more, this is a serious sign he is interested in you and actually listens when you talk to him.
19. Are You Impressed Yet?
As we’ve said so many times before (and you’ve probably known for quite some time), men love to impress females- especially ones they are interested in. If he seems to try to impress you, whether it’s with his clothing or picking up a giant boulder *right in front of you*, he’s probably trying to get you to notice him in a way other than friendly.
20. Need Any Help With That?
This kind of goes hand in hand with doing favors for you more than the average friend. But if he seems willing to do certain tasks- even the most boring or hard like changing your oil or fixing your broken glass window- this is a sure sign he likes you. Plus he gets to show off how manly and handy he is. Double win!
21. Just a Few More Minutes..
At the end of the night or a conversation with a friend, it’s usually easy to say goodbye. But when you’re interested in someone, you never want it to end. You could be together all night long, not saying a word, and it would be the best thing ever. If he always tries to spend more time with you or stay on the phone just a bit longer, he’s probably very interested in you.
22. Asking Friends and Family for Help
There is no better way to get to know someone than by asking around. If he’s asked your friends and family members questions trying to get to know you better, I’d take that as a very obvious sign he is wanting to be more than friends. Some common questions he might ask those closest to you include the following:
-Does she have a boyfriend?
-What kind of guys is she interested in?
-What are some of her favorite things to do?
-Any idea what her dream date is like?
Don’t be surprised if someone close to you says so and so has been asking questions. It’s not weird, he just really wants to know more about you and surprise you with something he knows you would absolutely love. That’s great investigating and really shows that he’ll go the extra mile to learn about you!
23. A Kiss to Remember
Your guy friend just kissed you. Like, woah. Completely out of nowhere. You two were walking home from the party and he grabbed you and kissed you. You were left completely speechless. And, you know what, this really doesn’t need further explanation. Either he was drunk out of his mind or he’s been wanting to kiss you for awhile.
24. “I Like You.”
If he flat out tells you he likes you, then, well, he likes you. And that’s that. No more questioning or wondering. It’s pretty much all on the table at that point, and it’s up to you to decide how you will react. At least you won’t have that lingering question in the back of your mind, right? Even if it’s totally awkward, it’s a huge relief off of your shoulders- and that’s something to be thankful about. Let’s just hope the guy you’re friends with has the guts to come out and tell it like it is! (Yes, men, we totally appreciate a guy who does this. Be brave!)
25. JUST ASK HIM
That’s right. Sometimes enough is enough and you just need ANSWERS. If he isn’t budging, just ask him to tell you so you can quit wondering.
It can be torture sitting around wondering if your guy pal wishes the two of you were ‘more than friends’. It doesn’t have to be hard, though. With subtle hints like playfully teasing and touching to going out of his way to do you awesome favors, there’s plenty of ways you can put your curiosity to rest- and possibly land yourself a boyfriend.
Ladies- what are some great ways a guy friend has proven to you that he wants to be more than friends?
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Penny
February 15, 2018 at 1:23 am
Hey! So, there’s this guy who used to be my ex crush, who’s also a good friend. We used to text each other often and share stories, interest, etc. He wishes my birthday and I knew we had smthg. We stopped texting back in January this yr and soon I found out tht he has a girlfriend. So, as a friend, I had to respect tht although I do admit I felt hurt. We (me and him) go to the same class. To show tht I disapprove him, I ignored him, turned my back on his. I guess he picked up the hints bcs he too ignored me. Yet, when we’re far a distance, I catch him looking at me. Last few weeks, I think he broke up with his gf. Why I said so is bcs she deleted posts abt her and him, and she also upload a story abt her being angry abt a guy. I noticed too that they don’t walk with each other. So, last few days, each time he passes me, I caught him looking at me, with a smile on his face. He still makes me feel like I want to run him over with a lawn mower for not telling me abt his gf. But at the same time, I have this feeling to be his friend again. So, I don’t know what to do now.
web admin
February 15, 2018 at 8:50 pm
You have an emotional connection with this person. To your knowledge, he is single and available. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Penny!
Maddie
January 2, 2018 at 9:30 pm
🎊🎉🎉Happy New Year!! 🎆🎆
So I met this boy last year and on the very first day of school, he disliked me,he was always rude to me and ONLY me with everyone else he was nice, he even talked to my best friend, always teasing her in front of me which made me jealous and I would always try covering it up.
You see, I really like this boy he goes to school with me since our parents are really good friends and he lives two houses away from me I feel hurt because he never gave me chance to introduce myself he went straight to judging me when he didn’t even know me, one time he was talking to his friend at our table (he was in my table) during art, and he suddenly said “I know who is the most dumbest person in this table” then his arm was pointed at me when I was working, I knew it was me cause I watched him from the corner of my eye like I always do when I steal glances at him. And do you him and his friend were talking about something else idk why my crush said that, my heart literally broke when he said that.
The other thing is he acts all sweet to me around my mom showing her him and me are SO getting along, PFFT YEAH RIGHT!
This year he isn’t in my class but we sometimes bump in the halls and I chuckle and smile, and all he gives to me in return is a scowl and walks away. I don’t know why last year my crush would always tease my best friend in front of me like ALWAYS and if it’s from a distance I would always hear the “Jane Romanova” (that’s my best friend’s name) then she would respond like this “*laughs* stop bothering me* it just broke my heart. But now she moved to Winnipeg we weren’t best friends anymore after last March when she told me Im to shy and she would rather have a best friend that’s popular.
So people say if a boy is mean to you and nice to everybody else that means he LIKES YOU but it’s hard to believe he barely shows interest I don’t know what the hell is his problem with me like there’s nothing different about me I’m the same like everybody else, and it’s weird that people wanted us to date last year (he laughed every time they said that) like we are so different.
I’m the shy, quiet girl who barely has any friends and embarrasses herself almost everyday.
As he is: popular, super smart guy who is friends with everybody but me, with everyone his all funny, happy, and talkative, but with me his all dark like I removed the bright sun ☀️ and exchanged it with a gloomy cloud ☁️
I don’t know why I like him but I do, I just wish we could get along with each other I talked to his younger sister she says “his just being his normal self” yeah being mean to me but nice to everyone else is SO NORMAL (Note the sarcasm)
Idk idk idk! 🤷🏻♀️
web admin
January 4, 2018 at 7:41 pm
Take this time to determine what you want for this relationship Determine which actions you believe are acceptable for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Maddie!
Ashley
December 13, 2017 at 9:23 pm
So I liked this guy and he rejected me and instead of saying “I’m sorry, but I don’t feel the same way” he avoided me for a year. Now I’m in 8th grade two years since I got rejected, so me and the guy (let’s name him Dude) got separated in 7th grade since he was in the other grade 7 class (there’s two seventh grade classes) I was relieved cause imagine how awkward it would be to see a guy that rejected you. Now in 8th grade his in my class and his talking to me like nothing happened, like we were still friends, I am so confused and hurt that I ignored him and gave him the silent treatment every time he talked to me and I still am.
~so that was before I didn’t know anything, but now I do~
So yesterday I talked to Dude’s ex (who is my best friend) asking her “Why is Dude talking to me but not to you?” You see my friend and Dude had a very bad break up (I’ll explain as we go). She told me “So, remember when Dude asked me out in 5th grade?” I replied with a nod, she said that she didn’t really like him when they were dating, she called Dude horrible words. Dude got sick of it and said that they were over, then my friend said “The weird thing is I started liking him when we broke up”
I think by adding everything she said I seemed to understand why Dude rejected me, he was hurt and mad that his girlfriend dated him even though she didn’t even like him. I think Dude rejected me because he was afraid of having the same thing repeated again, and me being mad about it is stupid, I didn’t know any of this until his ex explained everything
The question is why is he talking to me again? Does he want to be friends again?
web admin
December 14, 2017 at 10:55 pm
It is possible that he wants to be friends with you again. It is possible that he is interested in nourishing a romantic relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. There may be a reason why the two of you decided to end your relationship. If he reaches out to you, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ashley!
Ashley
December 20, 2017 at 8:43 pm
I don’t know what to do, he talked to me again today so we had book buddies when we read to the kindergartens, so my buddy who’s name is Mason sat near Dude’s buddy so then Dude called Mason to come over to him and Mason did then he asked Mason “what’s his name?” Then Mason replied and Dude called him Jason instead I rolled my eyes, that was the first time he approached us (me and Mason). Next he moved to a table close to me when I was reading on the floor (he sat two tables away then just moved to us) then Dude started bothering me by saying to Mason “come here” and that cute little 5 year old boy walked to Dude and sat beside him, Dude turned to me and chuckled a little then turned back to Mason. I crawled to my best friend’s spot and looked around I heard Dude call my name three and four times and I didn’t bother turning around and ignored it I heard his “I was just kidding” I just stood there until Mason came crawling to me. Then the third time he came up to me and said “That’s not how you read” when it was a book with a few words and he also said “here, let me read” he tried pulling it out of my hands but I held tight like we are playing tug-of-war and he let out after two seconds.
He did that the whole period so I couldn’t finish the second book I was reading to my buddy and somehow he enjoyed Dude’s company
The question is why is this guy keep coming over and over again to Mason and me when he should be reading with his buddy
web admin
December 20, 2017 at 9:27 pm
It sounds as though there are numerous people in your social group. Take this time to determine what you want with your friends. If there is someone that you are interested in developing a relationship with, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ashley!
Amanda
December 3, 2017 at 3:57 pm
So there’s this guy that I’m very good friends with. We hang out, talk, make jokes, etc all the time. And then people always started teasing us about being a couple for MONTHS and I secretly liked him (in hindsight I noticed he never seemed repulsed when they suggested we should date so i guess that’s good lol). And this dude CONSTANTLY AND CONSISTENTLY flirts with me but not around other girls! This may seem corny but I’ve done all my research on body language, took tons of quizzes, watched tons of videos, and asked tons of people, and they all say he likes me! once, my nosy, intrusive friends asked him about it and he got all flustered and confused saying he doesn’t know and doesn’t want to ruin our friendship because he likes spending time with me and stuff. last week, my friend went and told him i liked him. he didn’t believe it until another friend confirmed it. but then he said, “okay i don’t care” :/ . i was so confused! he acts like he likes me and drops all these hints but claims he doesn’t care ??? most of all, i was afraid of losing our friendship. he’s a great friend and it was suck if things got awkward between us. luckily, it didn’t. he still acts the same around me, even with the flirting! at this point i’m just lost because he says one thing and does another. i’m trying my best to be patient because the ball is in his court; he knows i like him, now he should either just tell me he doesn’t feel the same and we move on, or tell me he does and we figure out where to go from there.
web admin
December 3, 2017 at 7:12 pm
It is likely that he is confused or uncertain about his feelings toward you. Give him time to determine his thoughts. Take this time to determine what you want for this relationship as well. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then attempt to spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Amanda!
Carly 💙
November 28, 2017 at 10:05 pm
There’s this boy who I used to like, and when I had the guts to admit it he ignored me for a year after rejecting me, now after a year his coming up to me for small talk like, “Do you like memes?” “Subscribe to this _____ okay?” “You should talk in front of the class like you did in Riverside” (Riverside was my old elementary school, and I had a fear of talking in front of the class and in 6th grade I got forced to talk by my teacher) and I couldnt respond to him, I don’t why it’s hard, maybe cause I’m still hurt from how he rejected me, I keep telling myself ‘ just talk to him the way you used when you guys were friends’ (he didn’t tell me if were still friends after rejecting me) I don’t know… and he plays HOT AND COLD like when he gives me this small talk it’s HOT and some days he ignores me it’s confusing like can’t you just choose one and stick to it. Idk Herinterest, I don’t know why the hell I can’t respond to my crush and it’s like someone is controlling me when he talks to me I just give him a poker face 😐 Like he gave me when he avoided me.. I just don’t know what the hell to do?? Help!!
web admin
November 29, 2017 at 12:09 pm
It is clear that he does not understand his feelings toward you. He may be confused or uncertain about his thoughts and feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Carly!
Amber (:
November 28, 2017 at 9:53 pm
There’s this guy I met last year in 7th grade, who makes me confused and hurt at the same time. Like, since the first day of grade 7 he couldn’t get along with me, I gave him a smile but he would return with a scold face. We met each other when our parents introduced me to him and his little sister saying that “you and them are going to be go to school together, his parents will drop you there, and I’ll pick them and you at home time” I thought I would get along with the guy and make a new guy friend but on the first day he got me lost in school (it was my new school) and I was upset but I covered it because he looks intimidating to me like through the middle of my first day he walked up to me to ask me something and being the shy girl I am, I stuttered on saying a simple “Ok” and since I said it low he said “What!” so I repeated again three times all in a low voice, he just let out a big sigh and stormed away.
And you know, he treats everyone nicely and laughs with them and he treats me all rudely, not talking to me, acting like his mad at me when I didn’t do anything, telling his friend that “( my name) is dumb” right in front of my face and I ignored it all because i acted like it didn’t bother me but it did so I did the stupidest thing ever, when he came in the hall where the lockers are I slammed my locker door loudly (did I mention his locker is beside mine) and walked away leaving him surprised tbh I felt a bit better after doing that.
My question is why would that guy do all this? Why is he nice to everybody but rude to me? Why is he acting mad at me when I didn’t do anything to him, like I just met him??
Note: he asks all ‘nice boy’ around my mom showing her he can get along with me.
web admin
November 29, 2017 at 12:07 pm
It is possible that he is unable to treat you maturely. He may be confused or uncertain about his feelings toward you. There is no reason to continue to allow him to treat you rudely. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Amber!
Crystal
November 26, 2017 at 12:55 am
Ok to begin there is a guy (or two) who doesn’t talk to me much but whenever I comment on something he said he makes it seem so messed up. And one day I said something to him (I forgot) and he said to stop hitting on me. Or whenever I just talk to him he thinks I’m hitting on him or even when I physically hit him. I am confused on what to do I want to completely ignore him but I also want to know what he sees me as.
web admin
November 26, 2017 at 5:41 pm
If he is treating you poorly when you speak with him, then there is no reason for you to continue speaking with him. Take this time to determine what you want with your future. Spend additional time with other friends. Give him time to think about his actions and his words. Have a great day, Crystal!
Payton
November 20, 2017 at 7:31 pm
Hey I need advice, there’s this guy who was my friend, and when I admitted I liked him he start avoiding me for a year, and since I was upset seeing him laugh with everybody but me I did something really horrible. Now after a long time his making short talk and smiling, acting like nothing happened, I was shocked and I didn’t know what to say so I kept quiet. I thought we were friends again and checked Instagram to see if he unblocked me, he didn’t, so I checked my quiz to see if anyone took it and there’s someone new the name was ‘F*****g Shy bittchh’ I knew it was him (I’m the most shy person in my class) I cried at night thinking of how stupid I was, I want to apologise to him for what I did but im afraid he will tell everyone about my apology and not forgive me. I really miss him, I don’t want to be his enemy, I want to graduate elementary school happy not upset, apologising to him is one of my goals but it’s hard when he keeps confusing me.🎶Little does he know how I’m hurting while he falls asleep🎶 I miss him he was the first guy friend I ever had!!
web admin
November 21, 2017 at 8:42 pm
It is admirable when someone takes time to apologize for their past mistakes. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Apologize to him for your actions. Do not concern yourself with whether or not he accepts your apology. Have a great day, Payton!
Anna
November 13, 2017 at 4:18 pm
Guess what? Guess what! GUESS WHAT!! I decided to be patient these two months and me and him improved a lot! His talking to me again!! ☺️ Well not much as we used to but it’s better than being ignored for another year!! We didn’t talk about ‘that’ yet I’m planning to tell him later I want to see if he talks to me more so then I can pop that in a conversation. I am still upset about him ignoring me, but the past is the past. He wished me a ‘Happy Birthday’ even tho my b-day was yesterday. The weight that was on my shoulder is finally off. Who knew being patient would do the trick, btw I wished for him and me to be friends again when I was blowing my candles! 😂😂 Never thought my wish would come true!! I’m like literally so HAPPY!! I missed that guy so much!! I’m so glad his not mad at me about what I did!! ☺️☺️☺️
web admin
November 13, 2017 at 4:33 pm
Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Anna!
Mina
November 12, 2017 at 9:13 am
Hi, i am feeling conflicted over the actions of this guy. We first met when he happen to look up from his phone while i was looking at him. Suddenly,he decided to walk towards me so I turned my back to continue with my own activities but he stood there for about 5 minutes. Following that,my next encounter with him was at the lift lobby. While i was confused if he was smiling at me or my clique, he just smiled widely and gazed at me for those few minutes. Subsequently, he would just ignore or avoid me whenever we meet. I am unsure about his if he is trying to be friendly or does he like me?
web admin
November 13, 2017 at 4:27 pm
It is certainly possible that he is interested in speaking with you. It is likely that your actions have made him feel uncertain about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine if you want to develop a relationship with this person. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Mina!
sarah
October 17, 2017 at 5:58 am
and he always tells my friend about how he hates me and keeps making fun of me in front of her and keeps bitching about me to her.what could this mean
sarah
October 17, 2017 at 5:56 am
there is this guy and i really like him.but recenty i think he likes my friend as he keeps talking about random things to her and he listens to everything she says eg:she told him to cut his nails and he did it etc.
But he keeps making fun of me in front of both my friends to make them laugh and one day when my friens werent getting seats for lunch there was one seat in front of him and he told me to come and sit there.he also asked me what turns me on and he even remembers when i cried last year and he always tries to make me laugh.
Yixi
October 13, 2017 at 3:19 am
Hello! There is a nice guy who I really like and he is very quiet. It’s been recently that I feel like he wants to run away everytime I talk to him or when I am around. It has never happened before and sometimes I feel like he doesn’t want to be near me. My friend says that he is just that shy sort of person. When we see each other in the hallways at school, he smiles or says hi to me and quickly walks past. I haven’t been able to talk to him much recently because he kinda avoids me. I thought about telling him how I felt but I don’t think I’m any braver than him.
web admin
October 14, 2017 at 8:36 am
He is likely too shy to speak with you, especially in public. Take this time to determine want for your relationship. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. You can choose to attempt to speak with him in an area that is less public, as that may help him feel more comfortable. Have a great day, Yixi!
Sarah
October 7, 2017 at 6:14 am
There is this guy in my class who calls me fat and makes fun of me in front of my friends.and qhenever he cracks a joke i laugh and he laughs along qith me. Yesterday morning i was solving aome maths Nd got stuck in one question so he completed that question anx help ed me solve it what does it mean when a guy asks you what turns you on? and when he overall tries to make everyone laugh but his teasing is mean only towards you? and he cracks perverted jokes and laughs when ever i laugh.and he also calls me fat
web admin
October 7, 2017 at 5:20 pm
He is attracted to you. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. It is clear that he wants to develop a sexual relationship with you. Take this time to determine your thoughts and feelings toward him. If you want him to treat you differently, then be direct with him. Give him an opportunity to share his thoughts and feelings as well. Have a great day, Sarah!
?Anna?
October 6, 2017 at 5:05 pm
I give up! There’s no way I’m apologising to HIM I friggin up! He HATES me and do you know what he changes his mood so much like two days ago he freaking said “Anna subscribe to____ okay” I was literally standing there in shock like;
Did he freaking just talk to me?
His voice was normal there’s was no sign of hatred in his tone, I literally had a smile on the rest of the day but I didn’t reply to him since well I was standing there all surprised.
Then today he embarrassed me in front of the class, so we have this community meeting when my class sits in a circle and share something so my teacher said “what’s your fear” and when it came to my turn I froze I’m a very shy girl then HE spoke up and said, “she has a fear of talking” and people starting saying “ooh Roasted” I literally was blinking my eyes trying not to cry in front of my classmates yesterday I was thinking
Maybe I should wait to see if he talks to me again to see if his ready to talk to me , I should smile at him.
But no, his making this so difficult like even though we aren’t in good terms, don’t you think I deserve a tiny bit of respect? I try to but he keeps pushing my buttons making me want to freaking tell at him I kind of regret wishing he was my class he should have been in the other class, stupid me for thinking he will play easy on me.
If I wasn’t so shy I would talk to him but his ignoring my appearance, his so moody and it’s making me so confused like dude give me a chance to explain but whenever I feel like I should talk to him the next day he does something that makes me regret it.
The only chance I have is:
1. Ask his friends for help
2. Wait til my teacher puts my desk beside his
I don’t know about #2 since well my teacher switches desks every month and who knows which month will I be put next to him or not at all.
He still has blocked on Instagram I freaking thought he would give me a chance that day he talked to me but when I went home and checked my Instagram I was still blocked. I cried like the day before he talked to me and today I literally want to freaking rewind grade 6 or last year (Grade 7) at least last year cause hacking into his account is way worst then him ignoring me because I like him. Should have left it at just him ignoring me but I can’t help it if I feel hurt when his laughing with everybody but me
I miss him even though he annoyed me (just for fun) I missed him, never in my life have a felt so horrible or done something horrible.
Give some good advice that doesn’t involve communication, I could also put a note in his locker since he doesn’t have a lock on it but he probably will rip it or worst show the whole class.
web admin
October 6, 2017 at 6:34 pm
It sounds as though you are no longer interested in speaking with him. He may no longer be interested in developing a relationship with you at this time. Determine what you want for your future and for your future relationships. Treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Anna!
?Anna?
September 19, 2017 at 8:39 pm
Hello, it’s Anna again, clearly having a breakdown??. So it turns out I guessed right my crush is my class, sadly his all the time surrounded with friends ? And I can never approach him, and when I talk to my friend about it she says I shouldn’t apologise since my crush is an asshole. I, on the other hand, miss him so much and I feel like I lost him, I’m a nothing to him. On my first year in my new school in grade 4, out of everyone in the class he was the one who talked to me while others didn’t care. I had a breakdown last Sunday as well, it’s just memories flood in my head thinking about the good ol’ days where we both were okay and at lunch (in lunch program) when I am alone on the swings (since my lunch buddy decides to go home for lunch everyday) there’s a pathway just in front of them, and it hurts me when he walks past me. He sometimes on his phone, sometimes his hand in his pockets, I , being shy looks the other way until he passes me then turns back. I miss him, and I’m afraid of him rejecting my apology, I took a risk I never thought I would take which was admitting my feelings but look what happened, he didn’t say “I like you too” or “I’m sorry I don’t feel the same way” he just went straight to ignoring me. I miss how he use to tease me and I would pretend be annoyed, I miss how he lended his hand when I fell off my skis but I didn’t take it cause I didn’t want to be obvious I like him, I miss how we played tug of war with my paper and he would warn me with “It’s gonna be ripped, you know” as I would smile, I cried when I saw what he wrote in grade 6 when everyone in the class had to say something nice about everyone and he wrote: Kind! Nice! Ice Cream! then explained how I’m nice and how I gave everyone ice cream I would shake my head since my mom does that (my parents work at an ice cream shop and my classmates go there with there parents so they meet my mom, so my mom knows my crush) but I laughed, ugh those memories that I wish could rewind back to two years ago. The point is I lost him.. so I’m thinking I SHOULDN’T apologise.. like what’s the point I lost him for good he hates my guts!! I am a nobody to him now he doesn’t give two stars (shit) about me, guess that liking him ruined our entire friendship, he doesn’t know how goddamn much I miss him.. his popular, while I’m shy, although his shorter than me, his still strong, I’m weak he probably got over it last year while I think I’m over it but I’m not I can’t move on it’s hard my heart wants what it wants (lol quoted Selena Gomez right there) and what it wants is to build my friendship with ‘him’ the guy who eavesdropped us sits beside me in class btw. I just… FML look what I made myself do (now I’m quoting Taylor Swift!!) STUPID FEELINGS! STUPID CRUSH!! ME BEING SO FREAKING SHY!!
BYE!! ???
web admin
September 19, 2017 at 9:04 pm
It sounds as though you have many emotional influences in your life. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with someone, then speak directly and honestly with them about your thoughts and feelings. Be certain to treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Allow them to share their thoughts with you as well. Have a great day, Anna!
Lackey
September 10, 2017 at 5:41 am
Hello! There is a guy at school whom I have liked for a while. He is very nice and helps me with anything. We used to talk for hours during the holiday and all the things he would say was quite obvious that he liked me as well (I think!). During lunch times at school, we hang out in the music rooms and he would teach me how to compose. Now, I feel like he is growing distant. The year 12s have exams during these two weeks (he is year 12 and I’m year 11) so they don’t come to school during this time. When I try messaging him, I got very short replies. My friend told me that he usually sees and replies people’s messages straight away, but he isn’t replying to me at all (he doesn’t even read the message) even though he is online. I have thought about maybe he’s busy studying, but he has been talking to other people at the times when he is free. I don’t think I have done anything which upset him, and since he’s not at school, I cannot ask what is wrong. He has never ignored me like this before and I just don’t understand why he is doing this only to me. Is there anything I can do to which will make things go back to how they used to be?
web admin
September 11, 2017 at 9:50 pm
There are many potential reasons for him to be acting in the way that he is acting. He may be unable or unwilling to establish a relationship with you at this time. If you want to nourish this relationship, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may attempt to spend additional time with him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Lackey!
Francesca
August 26, 2017 at 7:10 pm
Hey there, there is this guy that i noticed who have been staring at me, one of his friend came up to me the other day and told me that the guy liked me, and pointed in his direction but when i looked at him, he is faced the other way. So I couldn’t really see his facial expressions.Before any of this happened he called my bestie hot, which is something I’m not really comfortable with if i will date him any advice?
web admin
August 26, 2017 at 7:43 pm
If you are not comfortable with his actions and words, then there is no need for your to develop a relationship with him. If you are concerned about trust, then do not establish a relationship with him. Additionally, he should reach out to you if he is interested in you. You make choose to speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Francesca!
?Anna?
August 8, 2017 at 11:46 pm
I seriously need help! There’s this boy who rejected me two years ago (I’m in 8th grade now it’s summer break) and we haven’t talked at all he blocked me on Instagram (in grade 7) and I feel like it’s my fault cause we barely knew a thing bout each other, and he was a distraction (if your confused I’ll explain)you see I liked this another boy as well and I was confused and tired and sick with my feelings I thought I liked this boy (the one who rejected me) so much so I admitted my feelings when grade 6 was almost over. When 7th grade started he give me blank faces and all seeing him talk to his friends laughing and smiling made me so sad since it reminded me how he used to joke around with me I was angry and sad that I did something really bad which made him block me on Insta and now it’s only 4 weeks left before school reopens and I feel like I want to talk to him since I miss us I can’t decide if I should apologise to him or not part of me wants me to go talk to him and apologise while the other part wants things to stay the same I don’t know i feel so stupid if I frickin didn’t ruin our friendship I wouldn’t be here for summer break bawling my eyes out, no, I would be having a stress free summer break with a smile on my face Ugh my stupid dumb feelings got in the way my question is:
Should I apologise to the boy?
If so please tell me what to do in number form
~Anna
web admin
August 10, 2017 at 1:46 pm
It sounds as though you have a strong emotional connection with this person. It is clear that you want to apologize. Do so. Reach out to him, and speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he responds in a positive way, then you can continue to nourish your relationship with him. If he is not interested, then do not attempt to continue the relationship. Be sure to treat him with kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Anna!
?Anna?
August 10, 2017 at 11:17 pm
K thanks I’ll do this when school opens in September I have a feeling he might be in my class this year so it will be easy to talk to him cause last year we got separated which I was kind of happy since both of us were awkward after my outburst of liking him thank u I was afraid that my question wasn’t send cause when I checked yesterday it wasn’t on here and I wasn’t in the mood to type again so I thought I would check again and it appeared You are the best!!
K peace out ✌?
web admin
August 11, 2017 at 8:28 pm
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Please feel free to share your insights in the future. Continue to keep a positive outlook. It sounds like you have a great mind for this upcoming year. Take this time to determine what you want for your future and go for it. Have a great day, Anna!
Keerthika
August 4, 2017 at 9:57 am
There is this guy in my badminton classes who keeps staring at me. Even at school when he is walking in front of me he turns around and looks at me and continues to talk to his friend.And he never smiles when he is looking at me. And also when i told this to my friend she said he stares at everyone in that way, but i dont think so
web admin
August 4, 2017 at 9:40 pm
It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is possible that he sees you as a friend. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then reach out to him and speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Keerthika!