My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?
So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.
Relax and Smile
If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.
If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.
Don’t Be Clingy
OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.
Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.
If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy
When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.
Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.
Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around
If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.
Talk To Him
For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.
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By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery
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October 22, 2019 at 4:06 pm
My crush’s twin overhead me say who my crush is. I think he knows now. What should I do?
web admin
March 20, 2020 at 7:22 pm
It seems that you should take this time to make a decision about what is appropriate for the future. It is certain that your crush is aware of your feelings, so you may want to reach out to him. You will draw positive people and energy into your life by sharing your kindness and compassion at all times.
Anonymous
October 15, 2019 at 1:55 pm
I have a crush and he asked me if I like him but I don’t know if I should tell the truth to him or if I should just lie to him and say that I don’t like him.
web admin
April 2, 2020 at 8:17 pm
It is always beneficial to be honest about your feelings. If someone asks you how you feel about them and you lie, then it is likely that they will believe what you have to say. If you tell someone who likes you that you do not like them, then it is likely that they will become sad and possibly decide to no longer pursue you.
CT
October 15, 2019 at 12:08 am
my crush knows that i like him. recently, my friend dm him to ask what he feels about me. he knows that i like him but he said he is not into relationship yet since right now he is focusing on his exam. but he said, idk maybe. last sun, he talk to me and that was so sudden! So what should i do?
CT
October 16, 2019 at 4:58 am
should i wait for him or move on to another guy? but he is very comfortable with me so idk..
web admin
April 2, 2020 at 7:06 pm
It seems that you need to take this time to make a decision about what you want for the future. There may be various potential actions that are appropriate. If you want to nourish this relationship, then spend additional time with him. If not, then make the decision to focus your time and energy elsewhere.
web admin
April 2, 2020 at 8:51 pm
You should take this time to make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Some time has passed since your comment, so you may need to consider what is viable at this time. If you want to strengthen this connection with your crush, then take this opportunity to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Be sure to give him a chance to share himself with you as well.
nana
October 14, 2019 at 5:04 pm
so i had a crush on this boy for a while, he is in my first class and we are friends. we text one another and sometimes call, and i think that he has the same feelings as me at some point. and last week, my friend was gonna talk to him after our first class (she knows that i like him and they both are also friends) and afterschool i asked her about what they were talking about and my friend said that he had kinda liked me too, but we just need to talk more. he wants me to express my feelings more? (i think that is what my friend said) and of course, i wanna talk to him but i don’t know what to say lol, and i was gonna start texting first cause he kinda doesn’t i guess but i don’t wanna sound annoying. and now i have no idea if he still kinda likes me, so i don’t know what to do
web admin
April 2, 2020 at 9:04 pm
It seems that the two of you need to have a discussion about the future. Take this time to make a decision about what course of action that you want to follow regarding your relationship. If you want to strengthen your connection, then spend additional time with him in person. If not, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere.
Emma Kate Benton
October 14, 2019 at 7:46 am
My crush already knows I like him, and I’m trying to get him to like me back, but I don’t want it to be awkward. What do I do?
web admin
April 2, 2020 at 9:15 pm
Your crush is aware of your feelings. For this reason, you should take this time to speak with him about your desires. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this connection by spending additional time with him in person. This will help the two of you reach a conclusion that is mutually beneficial.
Paris K
October 13, 2019 at 7:54 pm
I told my crush I like him (via note) on Friday. I don’t know what he will say to me on Monday or even if he will talk to me again. I feel relieved I told him. But I have no idea what he will say or think. I took lots of quizzes and they say he likes me but I think he likes someone else. I’ve known him since 4th grade and now I’m in seventh grade. I’m just really worried his friends will make fun of me, I have them in most of my classes so it scares me. My crush has been nice to me but I’m worried that if he doesn’t like me he will either taunt me or feel bad and stop the small friendship we started. I need some advice, please reply fast.
web admin
April 2, 2020 at 10:12 pm
By this time, you have likely received a response to your note. You may have found that, even if he wasn’t interested in nourishing a romantic relationship with you, he chose to not taunt you or treat your poorly. Take this time to consider what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and nourish your connection by spending additional time together in person.
Merr
October 12, 2019 at 3:19 am
My crush knows that I like him and he told me to wait sometime before he tells me if he likes me or not…. he told me that he wasn’t sure if his feeling… were like best fiends and we talk all the time… I feel like he’s leading me on from the past few days.. should I talk to him about it and ask if he likes me?
web admin
March 4, 2020 at 6:23 pm
You have shared your feelings with him, and he let you know that he was uncertain. Over time, it is possible that he has realized what he wants for the future of this relationship. You may want to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings again, and you can nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person.
Elliot
October 8, 2019 at 4:44 pm
Theres this guy that I really like, and he knows taht I like him at this point. My friends have been pushing me to talk to him, but I’m just too shy, and end up regretting it that I didnt later. I’m kinda stuck.
web admin
March 1, 2020 at 1:57 pm
You are aware that you are interested in him and that he is interested in you. Similarly, your friends are aware that this relationship may be viable. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time together in person.
Anonymous
October 8, 2019 at 1:52 pm
Hi so i have a crush on this guy and idk if he likes me back. Howevr, 1 of his friends once anonymously said that he heard that i had a crush on his friend but i hadnt told any1 or ever made it obvious at any point.. anyways.. whenevr i go past him his friends always smirk at me and him and in one of our classes, my crush sits by the entrance of the class but walk all the way round past me and then goes to his seat. I got my friend to ask hom if he liked me and he said no .. not to mention he is also a shy guy. SOmetimes he seems to blush around me but one of his friends told me that everyone says he likes me ‘for a joke’ soooo im really confused as to whether he likes me or not???
web admin
February 25, 2020 at 3:51 pm
It seems that his behaviors have revealed that he is uncertain about his feelings. His friends have informed you that he isn’t interested in maintaining a relationship. Of course, it is possible that his feelings will grow over time. Take this opportunity to determine what you want for your future, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Spend additional time together in person, as this will strengthen your relationship.
A
October 2, 2019 at 8:13 am
Today at school I told my best friend who my crush is and she told everyone. Then walking to my class he was behind me and I didn’t know that he knew that I like him. I don’t know him that much I only saw him last year….
Help
web admin
December 30, 2019 at 10:10 am
You can’t un-tell everyone now, so just go with the flow. Who knows? It may turn out that it’s a good thing she told everyone if your crush actually likes you back! Good luck!
H
September 26, 2019 at 2:59 pm
There’s this guy I like. We told each other that we like one another. Now what? We hang out a lot, and hug, but I don’t know if he’s ready to hold hands… what should I do?
web admin
December 28, 2019 at 12:56 am
The two of you have shared your feelings with each other. It is appropriate for you to hold his hand. Inform him of your feelings, and give him a chance to share himself with you. From there, the two of you can determine which behaviors the two of you feel is acceptable.
Daniella
September 23, 2019 at 3:41 pm
My crush is in my neighborhood, and I’m pretty sure he likes me. We both are to nervous to make a move because that’s not really our personalities 😂😭 now I’m moving and when ever try to go over to his house, my parents and his parents are weird about it. How can I tell him and his parents?
web admin
December 24, 2019 at 10:41 am
You are aware that the two of you have mutual feelings for each other. It seems that you are taking action toward him, so you may want to speak with your parents and his parents about your feelings. Give them an opportunity to speak with each other, as your parents may be interested in supporting your relationship. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Daniella!
pam
September 22, 2019 at 12:05 pm
I just wrote my crush a note telling him how I feel.
he had a crush on me and I just thought of him as a friend and then this summer we got together a couple times and even went out on a date and I fell for him. we didn’t see each other/ talk for a week because I was out of town and then the next time I saw him, he was with someone else and they ha s just started dating.
it’s been over a month and he started ignoring me but now we’re talkigm again and writing letters was kind of our thing so I gave him a letter explaining to him how i feel and then a few days later he pulled me aside and wanted to talk, he said he really liked my letter, and said that he was happy I told him, and that he wouldn’t make it awkward if I wouldn’t, and then he said that he thought I liked him but didn’t want to admit it to himself because he didn’t want to get cocky, which is what happens when people assume people like them, and then we got interrupted by a mutual friend who needed me so I asked if we could finish talking some other time and he said yes, and that was it. we’ve seen each other at school every day and he always has this huge smile when he sees me, it’s weird but he has like this special smile for me and I haven’t seen it since he started dating this other girl. they’re still going strong, as far as I know, but he came up to me and looked like he wanted to talk but we got interrupted again so … that’s it. i’m so confused but happy because it’s a weight off my shoulders and it’s off my heart now so… yeah. I don’t know what my next step I or what he’s thinking and I don’t know what to do.
web admin
December 23, 2019 at 8:57 pm
It sounds like he may have feelings for you, but there is no way to know for sure. You can try talking to him about how you feel, or you can just wait and hope that he makes a move first. You could also just hang out with him more so that he has more opportunities to reveal what his feelings are. Good luck!
Lawson
September 13, 2019 at 2:10 pm
I have a crush on a boy who I text a lot when i am having anxiety and he always calms me down. But today at school two people told him that I like him and another friend said he was making fun behind my back. He’s not the kind of boy to do that, and when we talk he gives signs that he is into me. What should I do?
Please Help!
web admin
September 13, 2019 at 6:54 pm
It is likely that this friend who said he was making fun of you is jealous of your relationship, and it is unlikely that this friend that supports you is making fun of you. It is certain possible that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. At the very least, he is interested in being a supportive friend. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lawson!
Louise
December 13, 2019 at 6:42 pm
Help, I think I smothered my crush! We’d meet up once and awhile with mutual friends. Then we worked on a project together. We’d flirt and find ways too touch, like a hand on an arm, stand a little too close together. I’d send him a few messages and he’d reply. He still does reply. He still flirts a little but seems to be pulling away some. I think I got way too excited and blew up his phone a little too much. If I take a step back and give him some space while still keeping in touch, is it possible he’ll show interest in me again or always see me as too needy to be more then just friends with? Or should I just rip the band aid off and let I know I have a crush on him, even though he’s backed off a little he’s still texting and spending a bit of time with me
web admin
January 5, 2020 at 11:11 am
It is clear that the two of you are attracted to each other, but he may not be certain what your relationship holds. Speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings.
Cyd
September 16, 2019 at 3:28 pm
Something similar is happening to one of my friends and I want to help her out
web admin
December 20, 2019 at 9:19 pm
Hopefully, Lawson will figure it out and let you know. Thanks for commenting, Cyd!
Itzel
October 24, 2019 at 5:40 pm
Flirt or be close to girl go get your man
web admin
March 16, 2020 at 5:30 pm
Thank you for sharing your supportive comment.
Bella
October 26, 2019 at 11:21 pm
Well, you don’t know for sure that he is talking behind your back. When boys find out someone likes them, it’s a bit of a shock (for anyone). Boys don’t know how to handle it. Don’t worry too much, and stay calm.
web admin
March 5, 2020 at 11:18 am
Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your positive energy with the world.
I
September 5, 2019 at 2:08 am
My crush is my family friend. 2 years ago, we were friends, so I asked him what do you think about my friend xxx. He ran away. Recently, I have a crush on him, so my friend did that confession for me and he said he doesn’t know who I am, but obviously he knows me. I feel like he likes me too, but He is toooo shy to express it. He smiles at me and looks at me when I am around. My crush’s friend’s friend has a crush on me, so he asked my friend my number. My friend gave it to him. When my crush discovered that the guy likes me has my number, he stops looking at me and paying attention on me. Yeah……When I am around, he just stops talking and tells his friends that I am around by eye contacting. My friends told me to give up cause there is no point of keep doing that?
web admin
September 5, 2019 at 10:31 pm
The two of you share a social relationship. His behaviors are indications that he may be interested in maintaining a romantic relationship with you. Your crush felt hurt by an action that was not your responsibility. It seems that you need to make a decision about what you want for your future. You will find great benefit in speaking with the people in your life about your thoughts and feelings. This will help clear up any misconceptions or concerns. Have a great day, I!
Q
September 5, 2019 at 1:38 am
My crush is a family friend, and my friend told him that I like him. Instead of saying no, he said he doesn’t know who I am. I feel like he likes me but he is shy to express it, for example he keeps looking at me when I am around. There is another dude who asked my number from my friend and he texted me. THIS DUDE IS MY CRUSH’S freind’s friend,. When my crush found out the dude who likes me have my number, he stops looking at me and pays attention on me, but when I am around he stops talking. My friends told me to give up on my crush because there is no point of keeping doing it.
Q
September 5, 2019 at 2:00 am
I feel like his friend knows that we both like each other in a long distance(like each other, but there is no talking)I he jealous when my friend gave my number to him?
web admin
September 5, 2019 at 9:11 pm
Your crush seems to be interested in you. It is possible that he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he does not want to nourish a relationship with you, then decide if you believe whether or not it would be appropriate to reach out to this other person who messaged you. Have a great day, Q!
web admin
September 5, 2019 at 9:11 pm
Your crush seems to be interested in you. It is possible that he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he does not want to nourish a relationship with you, then decide if you believe whether or not it would be appropriate to reach out to this other person who messaged you. Have a great day, Q!
Mia
August 28, 2019 at 10:08 am
So I told a boy that I liked him and he was ok with it it as in he flirted with me back it was going on for around 2 months but as soon as we go back to school we are both very awkward and can’t talk to each other what do I do help
web admin
August 28, 2019 at 6:36 pm
The two of you shared your thoughts and feelings with each other. The two of you are interested in maintaining a relationship, but you feel awkward and shy. You will find great benefit in nourishing this relationship by spending additional time together in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Mia!
Clara
August 21, 2019 at 12:33 pm
So this guy that I’ve knows ever since 5th grade (imma freshman) is really cute and I told him I liked him about all year ago, and he said he didn’t like me the same way. But lately (it’s been an entire summer break and a week of school) he’s been looking at me more, and most of the time I look back. But he even does it when I don’t. (I can see him out of the corner of my eye) Does he feel the same way now? Or is it just wishful thinking?
web admin
August 21, 2019 at 3:50 pm
You shared your thoughts and feelings with him a year ago, and he shared himself with you at that time. His feelings may have grown for you over the past year. He may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Clara!
shi
July 23, 2019 at 10:39 pm
Ok so this boy I had been crushing on for a while had told me that he liked me over snapchat but he dated one of my friends but she was chill with it. I told him that i liked him back…….. I’m not sure if he still fees the same way….. what do i do now
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 7:56 pm
He has informed you that he likes you. You told him that you like him as well. He was dating your friend, and your friend is okay with you nourishing a relationship with this person. Since this is the case, you should make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shi!
shi
July 23, 2019 at 10:39 pm
Ok so this boy I had been crushing on for a while had told me that he liked me over snapchat but he dated one of my friends but she was chill with it. I told him that i liked him back…….. I’m not sure if he still fees the same way
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 7:55 pm
He has informed you that he likes you. You told him that you like him as well. He was dating your friend, and your friend is okay with you nourishing a relationship with this person. Since this is the case, you should make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shi!
Calysta
December 2, 2019 at 5:17 pm
Ok so I have a friend who I guess is fake, but she promised not to tell my crush I liked them, she did, and I sit by him in math, what now
web admin
January 20, 2020 at 1:11 pm
Your crush is aware of your feelings for him. There is no reason to pretend that he is uncertain about what you want. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.