After this incident, he would make plans but be very flakey about them. I took initiative at times and made plans, too. He seemed a little off at times, like he was in deep thought and zoning out. He told me I was the first girl he had gone out with in a year (after isolating himself), since his horrible 2-year relationship breakup. Every date, he would mention her. Anyways, I didn’t understand why he bothered to make plans with me and then cancel last minute. It was very frustrating. I told him I was very understanding and flexible about his busy schedule (it is his last year of college and he works 50+ hrs/wk). So I gave him an ultimatum, and he apologized and said he would change. That he was so busy and actually did look forward to spending time with me. Of course the effort lasted a minute, and he kept repeating his behavior. So I told him to forget the plan. We hung out one last time, and I could tell his enthusiasm waned. There were less texts. He told me “when I date, I only date one girl at a time. I think life is about spending time with one person”. Yet I haven’t heard from him at all. He only texted me a friendly birthday wish, which I don’t count as anything but mere courtesy.

At work he was off-standish too. I asked him if everything was okay, because he had been quiet. He gave me some excuse about being on vacation the previous week, yet he had been back at work for a week.

I just feel uncomfortable about the situation but am choosing to let him go. I am not sure what to think about this pisces man. Maybe he was just looking to get laid the whole time, or he was not emotionally available because of his ex, or just really busy and being selfish in his own world. I am just not sure why he would invest so much time and money on a person (hundreds of dollars on dates and 10+ hours/each date), and talk about a future plan with me, yet suddenly disappear with no more effort or explanation? I told him that I wasn’t comfortable getting sexually intimate yet, and he claimed to understand! He didn’t even try to kiss me (although the physical attraction was obvious!). Would it be best to continue being friendly at work, or focus on my own life and see if he reaches out to me? Of course I will look forward and date other people, but its been very hard to get over him and also a bit awkward at work. I wouldn’t mind being his friend, and actually would prefer gaining his trust in a friendship first, so that he knows I am not the type to just sleep with and that’s it.

I am a bit more extroverted but do also tend to be passive and display introverted tendencies also as I need space to recharge.

This also makes it difficult for me to know what he is thinking…which makes me overthink even more. Lol

Thank for listening! And so sorry for the extra long post. Have a great day!

I am a cancer woman in love with a Pisces man 9 years younger than me. I am a divorcee and have 3 young children. We met online almost 2 years ago and had been dating ever since.

Our connection has been magical from the start. We talk about everything and spend hours in the phone. Because of work and life we see each other about once a week although recently it’s been over a month.

Our sex life has been passionate. Recently he expressed that he feels guilty after sex and hates planned sex. He’s concerned with the spirituality behind it as we are not married which I understand and let him intiate.

Through out our relationship…he disappears briefly like no contact for a few days and then comes back. Always comes back. There’s sometimes when I sense him pulling a way. I typically give him space and then go back and get him.

Recently he is pulling away again because he does not see how we can be together. But I know in my heart we can and will be. We got well together.

A few weeks ago I told him that I can’t help it but that I love him. And that I understand if he isn’t there yet or has hesitations. Everyone reaches love at different times and sometimes not at all.

He once mentioned that he tends to be passive in his relationships waiting for the woman to act and generally he stays with a woman who is persistent despite his passive tendencies.

Should I back off completely and let him think? Or should I stay and maintain the status quo ?

Is it possible he does love me but won’t say it because of our circumstances? Would he waste his time for this long if i didn’t mean something to him?

I’m a cancer and tend to sabotage situations with my over thinking. I do know I love this man dearly. He calms my mind and we complement each other perfectly.

It has now been over a month we haven’t seen each other but speak almost daily on the phone or text. I know with Pisces you have to maintain contact so they remember.

What do I do? Have i lost him emotionally?