Should I Text Him?
We’ve all been in that terrible predicament where we are sitting in our chair, staring at our phone, wondering- should I text him? The answer is yes. But why? How? What should you say? What shouldn’t you say? There’s SO much to know- but don’t let that overwhelm you. We’ve got the answers to all your questions.
Why It’s Okay to Text Him First
Why do we, as women, always question ourselves when it comes to texting a guy? We will spend hours contemplating. We’ll even start a new text message with his phone number at the top, yet the message box will be empty because we simply don’t know what to say or don’t even know if we SHOULD text him. But why? Is it because we’re afraid of looking too desperate? Do we think texting first is against the rules of being a woman? Let me tell you this: it is perfectly okay to text him. In fact, most men actually prefer it.
Okay, now, don’t sit there in shock. I know it was probably a surprise to hear that- and you probably don’t even really believe me. I don’t blame you. All your friends probably told you to not text him or you’ll look desperate and easy, and you probably erased the pending text message (yet you’re still sitting there staring at your phone waiting for him to text you, right?). Men like it when women text first. I mean, after all- we all know that men LOVE it when girls make the first move. It’s such a turn on. It shows that you are totally confident and secure in yourself and don’t wait on anyone. You’re a go getter. You know what you want, and you go for it. So why should it be any different when it comes to text messaging? Exactly.
Ladies, before you spend hours contemplating whether or not to text him, the answer is yes. It’s almost always a good idea. He won’t mind and he won’t suddenly think you’re some clingy unconfident weirdo- in fact, he will think exactly the opposite.
A Guide for Each Scenario
Okay, so we’ve made it perfectly clear that it’s okay to text him. Men absolutely love it. But now here comes the hard part: what should you actually say? Here’s a few scenarios to get you started:
1. The cutie you’ve been talking to just gave you his number.
So whether you’ve been chatting it up in a bar or you’ve talked to him a few times in your math class, the time has finally come. He’s given you his number and is ready to take the next step in the relationship. Wow. It’s all on your shoulders now! What will you do?
I can’t stress this enough: don’t be boring. Nobody wants to get the same old, “Hey what’s up” text message. It’s…dull. And he’s probably seen that same text message from 5 other girls in the past few days. Don’t be that girl. Instead, try something like this: “Hey, it’s Sophie. How’d that blue drink treat you last night? Stuck with a hangover?” or “Hey, it’s Abby. Please tell me you did as terrible on that math test as me.” This lets him know who’s texting and also gives him something fun and interesting to talk about with you.
2. You just got home from an awesome date with that special someone.
The sparks were flying the whole time. You’ve been sitting on your bed with a goofy smile ever since you walked in the door. You just can’t get him out of your head and the date was nothing short of perfect. What will you say?
First and foremost, you should absolutely let him know what an amazing time you had. Don’t be shy! Something like, “James! Thank you so much for tonight. It was incredible. The pizza was delicious, the movie was awesome, and YOU were unbelievable. We should do it again sometime”. Here, you’ve covered all the basis. You put his name in the text to make it personable, you told him everything you loved about the date (including HIM), and you let him know you want to go out again. Perfection.
3. You just had sex for the first time with a new partner.
Okay, this is important. I mean, yeah you had an AMAZING time, but there’s still a little bit of awkwardness. You don’t want to make anything weird, and you don’t want to act like that’s all you want from him (unless that’s what you want). There’s a few options to choose from, but don’t try to play it off like nothing happened. This makes him think it was a bad time.
You could say something like, “Wow. You were incredible last night” or “I loved everything about last night. The drinks, the play- and especially you”. Either way, you’re letting him know that you had a good time and you want to do it again. You could also follow up by saying, “So, did you have fun last night?” or “Did you have as much fun as I did yesterday?”
4. You just met his friends/family members.
Well, if you are meeting his family or friends than you MUST be something special. So you need to make sure you let him know that you’re grateful for the opportunity and that you loved his family/friends. (And yes, you should probably say this even if you weren’t a huge fan of his friends or family members).
Say something along the lines of, “Thank you so much for inviting me to dinner with your parents last night! They were lovely” or “Thanks for bringing me to the bar with you yesterday. Your friends and cool and CRAZY! Lol”. You could then follow this text message with something like, “What did they think of me?” (Because I know you’re probably DYING to find out- I don’t blame you!).
5. Something awkward happened.
Okay, so let’s say you did something totally awkward with a guy friend the night before. Maybe you got totally drunk and were acting stupid. Maybe you grabbed your guy friend and started making out with him- even though the two of you were “just friends”. Really, there’s a whole list of awkward and embarrassing moments that could happen. But what do you say the next day?
Really, the only thing TO say, is sorry. And you should ABSOLUTELY say you’re sorry- even if you are overwhelmingly embarrassed. This will help ease the air a little bit and help the two of you work past it much quicker than trying to avoid the situation altogether. A simple “I’m so sorry about last night” is a great way to start. Then, based off of his answer, you will know what to do next.
6. You’re not interested in him.
There’s probably nothing worse than being led on by someone who is not interested in you. If you went on a date with a guy you thought you liked but it ended up being a bust come date night, then you need to let him know right off the bat. Don’t wait for him to text you saying what an awesome person you are or how great the night was- that will only kill his spirit even more. You need to upfront and honest with him as soon as you can. There’s a few different ways to do this.
You could always simply say, “I’m sorry, but I don’t think this is going to work out. You’re a nice guy but I don’t see anything happening between us. Thank you for the date though”. That’s subtle, but gets the point across fairly quickly. If you want to be even more subtle and friendly about it, try something like “Hey. Listen, you’re a really nice guy but I don’t think I see anything romantic happening between us. We can stay friends if you’d like, though!”
Times You Shouldn’t Text Him
Well, for the most part it’s almost always okay to text him first. But, of course, there are still some occasions in which you should absolutely avoid texting him altogether. We’ve broken down the few times you should NOT text him.
1. When you are mad.
This is really simple: when you are mad, you almost always say things you don’t mean. Which means you could end up saying something really nasty and rude to him that will totally turn him off and ruin your relationship. If you are mad, do not text him. Wait to cool off and them return to the conversation with a level head so you can discuss the situation.
2. When you are drunk.
Ah, those infamous drunk texts. Those very awkward, embarrassing, and totally terrible drunk texts. You don’t want to make a fool out of yourself, right? Then I highly suggest avoid texting him while you’re under the influence. You might definitely say something “out there” that will make you look odd, desperate, weird- the list goes on and on. I mean, when you’re drunk you are a lot more “open” about things. You’d hate to tell him something personal about yourself or maybe even something you’ve been thinking about doing to him (hint hint). Just please, avoid the drunk text nightmare and save your texting for the next day.
3. If you’ve already texted him that day.
It’s a rule of thumb: text someone, and if they don’t text back, don’t keep texting them. I mean, there’s a reason they didn’t text back, right? Maybe they’re busy at work. Maybe they’re working on homework. Maybe they just plain out don’t want to talk to you. Whatever their reason is for not texting back, you don’t want to be annoying or look desperate. If you’ve already texted him once that day- and he didn’t text back- let it be. He will contact you if he wants to talk.
Texts You Should Never Send Him
There are just some things you should NOT say to a man. Here is a few absolute no-nos when it comes to texting a guy.
1. I can’t wait to go out with you again.
Sounds harmless, right? But you know what you just did there? You automatically assumed that there’s going to be a next time. You automatically assumed he wants your company again. Instead of telling him you had a nice time, you decided that he had as much fun as you are and the two of you are going to go on a lot of grand adventures together. But unfortunately, it just doesn’t work like that. This text message is just too presumable. Instead, say something like, “Wow, I had a really nice time with you Jeff. I’d love to do it again sometime”. This lets him know that you loved the date and, if he is on the same page, you would love to do it again sometime.
2. What’s up?
You have probably sent this text, what, a million times by now? Yeah, and you know what? He’s read that same text a million times already. One word: boring. When you’re texting a guy, you don’t want to be boring. It’s as easy as that. You don’t want to be like everybody else and you certainly don’t want him to think that you’re a snooze fest. Who wants to be in a relationship with someone that is boring? Instead try something like, “Hey! Are you going to Brynn’s party tonight?” or “Hey! Have you seen the new Star Trek movie?” Basically send him anything that will start a conversation.
3. Where have you been?
When you haven’t talked to someone in awhile and you send this text message, their reply will almost always start with “I’m sorry” following by “I’ve been busy with work, school, etc.” And you know what you just did there? You guilt tripped him into talking to you and made him feel bad. That’s totally NOT what you should do. Instead, try saying something like, “Hey! Haven’t heard from you in awhile. How have you been?” That lets him know you’ve been thinking about him but you understand life gets hectic.
4. Thinking about you!
Unless you’ve been in a relationship with this guy for quite some time, please don’t send this text message. Sending this to a guy you barely know is a recipe for disaster. He will read this and automatically think, “Wow. This girl is crazy and super clingy!” I mean, after all- it’s a little weird to be thinking so much about someone you just met and actually tell them. (I mean, of course it’s okay to be thinking about that hottie nonstop! I do it too- just don’t let HIM know it!) It’s just a little too desperate. Refrain from anything like this.
Don’t let text messaging make or break you. It’s easier than you think to text that special guy in your life!
What do you think? Should women text a man first? Is there certain times you shouldn’t text him? What should you say? We are dying to hear your opinion!
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Itties
June 17, 2018 at 9:33 pm
Hey so, I met this guy. He lives in Australia and me US. He was on vacation with his friends. My friend was flirting with his friend and then my friend wanted me to come hang out too. Basically right when we met eachother we went and had really really passionate sex. It kind of freaked me out to be honest so much that I left the next morning when I guess he wanted to hang out. Then on his last day on vacation they invited my friend and I over and we had sex again and really good conversation. I thought it was just a hook up but then he reached out later to me when he had arrived home from his trip and I tried to be logical and said if we’re ever in the same place again to meet up. But then we kept texting eachother every week little flirty messages. Finally after 3 months of just messaging I asked if he wanted to FaceTime. We did and I was nervous but I thought it was fine. Then I got a miss call the next day and told him I’d call him back but he then texted it was a pocket dial which is fine, so I didn’t call him. Then he stopped talking and liking my pictures on Instagram, and I haven’t heard from him in a month. Yet he still looks at all my stories. Another thing I had told him I was planning to go to Australia a week before the call and he was really excited, even his friend told my friend he was excited. So very confused.
web admin
June 17, 2018 at 11:08 pm
There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. It is possible that he is confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. You are interested in visiting him, so speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. However, it is possible that there is another influence in his life that is preventing him from seeing you. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Itties!
Emmy
May 21, 2018 at 5:40 pm
So, I like this guy, and I think he likes me. Here’s the story. We have met a few times through a mutual friend. He would flirt with me and I would flirt back. We have been acquaintances for a few years. Last year we were texting over Instagram but suddenly stopped. I think he lost his phone. Today he got a new Instagram account and I was the first person he followed. The only problem is that the mutual friend that I referred to earlier also likes him. I don’t know what to do I need help.
web admin
May 21, 2018 at 10:21 pm
The two of you developed a relationship over the last year. The two of you feel a strong social connection. He added you when he was able to do so. Your mutual friend is interested in nourishing a relationship with him as well. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with your mutual friend. If you do not believe that developing a romantic relationship with the guy in your life will not harm your friendship with your other friend, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Emmy!
Kenzie
April 13, 2018 at 4:19 pm
So I was talking to this guy for the longest time and things recently kinda died. We haven’t talked in awhile but I still really like him and want things to work. How do I know if he’s just not feeling it anymore? I feel awkward asking straight up. Do I text him? Or should I let us drift apart and move on?
web admin
April 13, 2018 at 10:20 pm
It sounds as though your relationship is at a point where a decision must be made. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what you believe is appropriate for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kenzie!
Elise
November 18, 2017 at 2:34 pm
Hi there,
I recently matched with a guy on tinder and things were going well from the beginning, we had a lot in common and texted back and forth a lot. I went on 3 dates with him and I enjoyed spending time with him and we had plans to hang out again. A few days later I kind of started having issues with mood swings and depression due to a medical condition so I completely stopped texting him and deleted tinder. He last texted me about 2 weeks ago and I didn’t answer but I do miss him and I’ve been debating whether or not to text him again. At the same time I don’t know how to explain myself and I probably hurt his feelings so I think maybe I should just leave him alone at this point. Do you have any advice on what I should do?
web admin
November 19, 2017 at 5:45 pm
Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Explain the reasons behind your actions. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Allow your actions and his reaction to influence your future decisions. Have a great day, Elise!
Elise
November 17, 2017 at 8:15 pm
Hi there,
so I matched with this guy on tinder and we got along really well from the beginning. We went on 3 dates and I enjoyed spending time with him and we talked about hanging out again. Shortly after the 3rd date I started having pretty bad mood swings and depression so I completely stopped talking to him and deleted tinder when I was having a particularly bad day. I haven’t texted him in 2 weeks but I do miss him. I want to text him but I don’t know how to explain myself. I also don’t know if I really hurt his feelings if it would be better for me to leave him alone now. Do you have any advice on what I should do?
web admin
November 19, 2017 at 5:39 pm
Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Explain the reasons behind your actions. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Allow your actions and his reaction to influence your future decisions. Have a great day, Elise!
Nora
August 20, 2017 at 5:48 pm
Hi, There is a guy I like. We met at a party and he invited me to hang out with him and his friends to drink and celebrate. I felt like we had a really good connection, we talked a lot and he kind of put his arm around me but I’m not sure if that was accidentally. One of his friends invited me to his birthday party like one or two months later, where I met that guy again. Both of us stayed over there because we were too drunk to drive and ended up sharing a bed. He was holding my hand, touching my knee and even touched my face (only to check if I was still wearing my glasses, he said). We were really close and talked a lot, even about “deeper” things like our families and fears, until we both fell asleep. The next morning we both are very tired and a little distant (I’m very shy when I’m not drunk), but he still drove me too the train station that was a little away. We now had each others numbers from the WhatsApp group for the birthday party, and I was really hoping he would text me, which he didn’t. A week later the friend group had a small get together I was invited to, playing games and getting drunk, and he was there too. While we were playing games we made a lot of eye contact and he made a few jokes about having sex with me (which I don’t mind), and when most of the friends are left he asked me if i wanted to lay down on the sofa. We did that, kind of cuddling/laying next to each other with my head on his chest and his arm around me. We talked again, he showed me pictures of his cat and again we were having a great time and a lot of chemistry. He winked at me now and then and we were holding hands under the blanket and he stroked my leg lightly. But again he doesn’t do anything special when I leave, and he hasn’t texted me yet either (it was one day ago). Now I’m tempted to text him, because I feel like we really got a connection, but I’m scared he only feels that way when he’s drunk. I really hope he’s gonna text, but I doubt it based on his previous behavior. Should I text him?
web admin
August 20, 2017 at 10:52 pm
It is likely that he has strong feelings for you. He may be concerned or confused about your feelings toward him. He may want to develop a relationship with you. He likely is much more emotionally open when he is drunk. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him the opportunity to to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Nora!
Nora
August 21, 2017 at 8:21 am
Thank you for your reply and advice!
Raquel
August 12, 2017 at 1:43 am
Hello! So I’ve got kind of an awkward situation. So I went on a couple dates with this guy before I left for home once our college semester was over for the summer. He’s really shy, not a “player” by any means and is so sweet. The problem was he never really like made a move. Fast forward to our last date, he texted me after and said he was into me and sorry if he’s awkward with showing it. I was so happy he said that because I texted him before that I liked him and wanted to hang out more.
So after that date I went on a 3 day vacation and we were kinda planning on going somewhere together. However, he never texted back until he already left for home. He said he didn’t get my message and asked how I was. I was kinda mad at him and took advice from my friend and didn’t text back. She said he was making excuses but I really don’t think he is that type of guy.
Now that school is starting, and it’s been 3 months, I’m wanting to text him just to see how he’s doing. I’d love to hangout with him again and he is such a great person. I’m just worried he’ll think I’m desperate or clingy! Im not sure what to do…
web admin
August 13, 2017 at 6:22 pm
It is certainly possible that something in his life took him away from you. He likely did not intentionally mean to miss your meeting. Take this time to determine what you want with your life and make choices that lead you in that direction. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Allow him to share his thoughts and feelings as well. Have a great day, Raquel!
Raquel
August 13, 2017 at 7:24 pm
Thank you! So do you think it’s a good idea to text him? Do you think he’d respond?
Sandy
August 2, 2017 at 5:52 am
So there was a guy I worked with and he would always drop hints that he liked me and was interested such as stare at me as I walked by, flirt with me when we would talk, whistle a tune everytime we would pass by one another or if I was walking in front of him & he was behind me. The classic examples of a guy trying to grab your attention. We began to kicked it off and got a long very well a few weeks before he was leaving the job. During his last day, I asked if I could speak w him about something and we met up and I politely told him that I had feelings for him and asked if we could exchange contact info to keep in touch. He was thrilled and seemed very happy and immediately gave me his number and kept telling me to text him. I texted him later on that night letting him know that it was me and that this is my number. I didn’t hear a response back from him, that’s ok no problem. A week later I called him to see if I could arrange for us to hang out & have a good time, do something casual. And he didn’t pick up his phone. From the number he wrote down for me I wasn’t sure if I had the correct one so I texted both numbers asking if I had the right number and still no reply back. Eventually one of the numbers would have replied back. What do you think, why is he ignoring me? He seemed interested, why is he not even willing to keep contact with me or if he didn’t feel the same, why wouldn’t he just mention it and tell me I’m the beginning? I would like to hear your thoughts.
web admin
August 2, 2017 at 7:57 pm
It is possible that he lost his phone since he gave you his number. It is possible that he is not interested in you. It is possible that he gave you an old phone number. Since you can not contact him, allow him to fade from your life. If you see him again and you want to speak with him, then reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Sandy!
Tina
July 26, 2017 at 2:26 pm
Hi!
So a bit of an awkward scenario but this guy friend of mine and i have been talking for a while and, even if later, usually answers me. Sometimes we go for a bit without talking but we find a way to get back. This time though, there was a day a couple of weeks ago i sent “hey! Whats up?” But he never answered. In fact, (we have a streak) he sent me snap like usual! And im sure he’s opening whatsapp because my friend told me she texted him yesterday morning :/ needless to say im mad and a bit hurt… it’s seeming less and less like he didnt see the message. I didnt text him since then and i stopped snapping him too. Today, i had a party and he was there. I saw him and he saw me but i decided to just ignore him and walked passed him without greeting him, and just avoided him the whole night. I dont know if what i did was wrong but i did it out of anger and shock. I really value our friendship and want to find a way to talk to him again and “mend” things but idk how. Any ideas?
web admin
July 26, 2017 at 8:15 pm
You likely have damaged his emotional connection with you because you ignored him. It is likely that he thinks that you are not interested in him. If you are interested in developing a relationship with him, then reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him the chance to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tina!
Adelle
July 6, 2017 at 10:44 am
Hi,
Ive recently split up with boyfriend we had a major argument and ive not heard a thing from him Im wondering if he is okay etc and hope he isnt hurting but i dont know weather to message him or not
web admin
July 6, 2017 at 7:37 pm
If you have determined that your relationship has ended, then allow it to remain in the past. There is no reason to look after him, as the two of you have decided that you are no longer together. This will ensure that you do not develop a lifestyle that creates a cycle of breaking up and getting back together. You may also decide that you want to reach out to him. If this is done out of kindness and compassion, then nothing wrong can happen in response. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Adelle!
Sammy
June 27, 2017 at 12:00 pm
Hi, my friends husband set me up with one of his friends. We talking for about a year. We went on date and hung out. I kept getting one work answer from him near the end (he had recently lost his dad) so I assume it was that. Anyways we haven’t talked for about 3 months, but I still would like to talk to him. Do you think it’s a good idea to message him or just leave it?
web admin
June 27, 2017 at 3:59 pm
Send him a message to see if he is interested in spending time with you. He may be shy, grieving, confused, worried, or many other emotions. These emotions may have been causing him to not reach out to you. If he does not respond, then perhaps allow him to have his space. He may still need time for himself. Have a great day, Sammy!
Lauren
June 24, 2017 at 10:13 am
Heyy, I’ve read this article and it has made me slightly more confident but I would still like your opinion please? So I’ve known this guy for a couple of months now and when we talk in person I would say that we are flirting with each other but I’m unsure if he is like that will all his friends that are girls. He always makes me laugh and I feel like we have a lot of eye contact and he usually teases me a lot when we go to training sessions together. However, we met up today with 4 other people and he seemed slightly different and not teasing me as much and I’m worried this means he doesn’t like me anymore. We were in a shop at one point and he was in the queue at the checkout and I did notice him looking at me but when i noticed looked away. I’m in 2 minds about messaging him… 1. Does he feel the same way because he seems really shy and if I message him I don’t want it to be awkward and ruin the friendship that we have. 2. I really do like him a lot and am getting more feelings for him and I just don’t want to ruin anything if something was to happen in the future.
Thanks
web admin
June 24, 2017 at 8:29 pm
Your best option is to be clear and direct with him. If he is in a relationship, then explain that you understand. If he is unable to develop a relationship with you at this time, then be certain to remain his friend. Do not attempt to develop a romantic relationship if he is in a relationship. This will help you now and in the future. Have a great day, Lauren!
Shay
May 16, 2017 at 3:59 am
Hi
So I like this guy who I used to work with. At the start he initiated everything and seemed genuinely interested. He had a girlfriend but said he wanted to break up with her. Then they got back together and said we could only talk at work. So we became friends but he was always extra flirty with me. Kept telling me really personal things and always followed me so we would be alone in different places. He kept telling me he wanted to start texting me again but never did. Before I left he said he didn’t have any feelings for me which broke my heart honestly but should have seen it coming and then said but he will really miss me. He also said he wished he met me earlier. We haven’t spoken in 3 months now. I was wondering if I should text him? And if so what should I even say? We have so much history that I don’t want to make another mistake.
web admin
May 16, 2017 at 10:29 am
If he is single, then you can text him. His strange responses were probably because he had feelings for you but felt like he shouldn’t because of his relationship. If you don’t know if he is single or not, reaching out to just say hello probably won’t hurt. It sounds like he genuinely liked you before, but his relationship got in the way of really thinking about his feelings or following through on them.
Shay
May 16, 2017 at 3:04 pm
What should I say I him? I’m very nervous
Thank you for your help
web admin
May 17, 2017 at 1:24 pm
Start with just saying hello and ask him how he is doing. You can also say that you hadn’t heard from him from a while, so you wanted to see how life was going. After that, just figure out how to respond based on what he says. Good luck, Shay!
Freya
May 12, 2017 at 9:15 am
Hi,
I’ve been interested in this guy for almost the whole year now. Soon he will leave for university so my time is running out. We’ve never met or spoken but I’ve seen him arroyos college. I added him on Instagram and he added me back and so far that’s the only interaction we’ve had (he never likes any of my posts). So I’m really torn as to add him on Facebook and start messaging him or if I should just leave it and hope that at some point we will meet and be able to talk in person.
What do you think?
web admin
May 12, 2017 at 9:47 am
Talk to him! If he will be leaving for university, you have nothing to lose. Ask him if he wants to hang out! At the very least, start messaging him now or you may lose your chance. Go for it!
Lisa
May 10, 2017 at 7:29 pm
Yes , I have known to text this young gentleman, I have known him since the early 80s but we he need some help finiacial Help , so I lent him some money , & I am married too, & he is going through a Divorce but I am trying to get a hold of him since yesterday Morning , & I text him & HAD asked him about us Trusting each other , I don’t drive, he live on the East coast & I Live on the West Coast , So I really don’t know what to do !!!Except just Shine him on , but I am person that is up & Honest with anyone !!!So you tell me.
web admin
May 11, 2017 at 8:30 am
Keep talking and see where things go. I would be wary about loaning money–at the very least, it may be a little harder to repay it from so far away. Otherwise, keep talking to him and see what happens. If you guys end up getting along well together, you can always fly out to see him and see if your chemistry is as good in person. Long distance relationships are just as likely to work out as in person relationships, so there is no reason not to find out where this relationship can take you. Good luck, Lisa!
Emily
April 17, 2017 at 2:23 pm
So I end up texting this guy every few weeks, but he doesn’t respond via text, but always talks to me about the text in person and otherwise seems interested. We’ve gone out to bars to see music alone and such. So I’m just very confused.
Thoughts?
web admin
April 18, 2017 at 10:12 am
Many people are not comfortable speaking through text messages. Others find it to be impersonal. Others still enjoy talking in person as it is more intimate. This personality trait may be a blessing. Next time that you want to speak with him, explain that you want to see him in person. He will probably return your message quickly. Have a great day, Emily!
Chanelle
March 21, 2017 at 6:19 am
Hi,
There is this guy I like and had a crush on a couple of years (I liked him but there were also other guys and bit by bit I started moving on) But a few weeks ago he said he liked me and thought I was very attractive then we started texting about us and we met up a couple of times to kiss and find out if there are real feelings. He even said that if I was sure I wanted him he wants a relationship with me. unfortunately is the last time we talked 10 days ago. I do not know where I stand now. Is it a good idea to text him or is him being silent my answer.
with love, Chanelle
web admin
March 21, 2017 at 1:44 pm
It is clear that the two of you are interested in each other. There is no reason for you to not communicate with him. Try to spend additional time with him. This will allow the two of you to become closer to each other. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Chanelle!
Chanelle
March 21, 2017 at 1:42 am
Hi,
There is this guy and we started texting a month a go and then we texted for about 3 weeks and we “chilled” twice. We mer more to kiss because we needed to sneak around. He said he really likes me and he would like to date me if I am sure I want him.
I have not told him that I had a crush on him a couple of times. And after we kissed for the last time up untill now he texted me, but it wasnt a very long convo. That moment is already 11 days ago and I dont know if its smart to text or if I shouldnt. I tried twice but the convo’s were really short and too boring/awkward.
Does he think I don’t like him enough or does he just not like me enough?
Thank you for reading and hopefully replying,
web admin
March 21, 2017 at 1:39 pm
It is clear that the two of you are interested in each other. There is no reason for you to not communicate with him. Try to spend additional time with him. This will allow the two of you to become closer to each other. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Chanelle!
Kelly
March 20, 2017 at 1:29 pm
Hi. There is this guy that I really like and last year we had a strong connection and spoke and hung out together. Somehow our conversations started fading and I automatically started to assume that the guy was no longer interested but at the beginning of this year we had small talks which were mostly started by him but because I still had that thought that if he was into me our conversationso would not be so short therefore since they have shortened so had his interest i replied and just let everything slide. 2 months go by and I realize that it was just my perception of things now I really miss him and I really want to start talking to him again I just don’t know what exactly to say to start things off…please help because I know that all I end to do is send one text and I can sort everything from there. I’m even willing track my pride down just to let him know how I feel
web admin
March 20, 2017 at 4:30 pm
If you want to reach out to him and share your feelings with him, then do so. It can not hurt for you to share your feelings. If he is not interested in developing a relationship with you again, then at least you know that you tried. Speak with him about your thoughts and allow him to share his mind with you as well. Best of luck, Kelly!
Gabrielle
March 12, 2017 at 10:15 pm
Hi, I wrote here earlier about a guy I was seeing who only wanted to be casual, and I’ve run into another issue. It turns out pretty much all of my friends thought I deserved better once I told them my situation with this guy, but I didn’t see him the way they did until he sent me a text about our get-together a couple weeks ago. About an hour before our date, he texted me and said “I only have a couple of hours to hang” and I guess my emotions got the best of me, I overreacted and replied “Just forget it” because I felt like my friends were right and he doesn’t really want to spend time with me. He hasn’t replied since I sent that about 2 weeks back. I figured he would say something or maybe he didn’t respond because I was upset and thought I needed space. For some reason, I still want to hang out with him despite what my friends have told me, and I can’t stop thinking about him and I don’t know what to do about it. Do you think I should move on or try and text him again?
web admin
March 13, 2017 at 1:45 pm
If you haven’t spoken to him for two weeks, then your relationship is over. Allow him to fade from your thoughts. In the future, remember that some people are busy and may only have a few hours available to share with you each day. They may have family concerns or other things that they need to address. Best of luck, Gabrielle!