10 Signs He Wants to Date You, Not Just Hook Up

The trouble with dating is that you can never truly know someone’s intentions. You can’t read minds and therefore, you have to take someone at their word. But unfortunately, that’s not always enough. Because people lie. And while it may seem that a guy likes you and really wants to date you, they could just be playing nice in order to get in your pants.

It’s harsh. But it’s the truth. Guys know that us ladies are more inclined to want a relationship than they are. They usually are more interested in all the physical aspects of a relationship and less about actually dating. But since they know what you’re thinking, they may try to make you believe they want the same things you do.

But don’t worry! If you know all of these things, you’ll be able to weasel out who actually wants to date you and who’s only sticking around for the hook up. Here are all the signs he wants to date you.

1. He initiates conversations often.

A guy who only wants to get in your pants won’t reach out to you more than you do to him. If a guy is actively trying to talk to you and start conversations, then he likes you for more than just what’s in your pants. A guy who wants to talk with you and get to know you is a guy who wants to date you.

2. He asks personal questions.

Again, a guy who wants to get to know you is someone who wants to date you. If he’s asking a lot of questions about your goals, opinions, and who you really are deep down, then he actually really likes you. He’s trying to determine if he sees something more with you and if you two are actually compatible.

3. He talks as if he sees a future with you.

When a guy talks about things he’d like to do with you a week or even a few weeks down the line, he’s talking as if there’s a future. By saying these things, he’s telling you that he sees himself with you for longer than just a fling. He wants to be with you that far down the line and is making that known. A guy who only wants to hook up with you won’t do this.

4. He’s never around or talking to many other girls.

Obviously, if he has a couple friends who are girls and he talks with them, it’s fine. But if he’s a guy who is repeatedly flirting with other girls and talking to a new one all the time while he’s talking to you at the same time, he just wants to hook up. A guy who wants to date you won’t be flirting and talking to new girls all the time. He only wants to talk to you.

5. He talks about relationships in a positive way.

Some guys trash talk relationships all day long. They talk about how restricting they are and how much they don’t like them. If a guy is acting as if he likes you and he’s trying to get with you, yet he talks so negatively about relationships, then he may just trying to hook up with you and making it clear he has no thoughts about being in a relationship with you.

6. He introduces you to his friends.

A guy’s friends are some of the most important people to them. Sometimes they’re even more important than family. That being said, if he introduces you to his, he definitely likes you more than a friend and wants to date you. If he just wanted to hook up, he’d never let you meet his friends.

7. He doesn’t make a move too soon.

A guy who wants to get in your pants is going to make a move and make it fast. After one date, he’ll be jumping at the chance to get a nice make out session in. Maybe he won’t even wait for a date. But a guy who wants to date you is going to take his time and make sure you’re into him before going for it.

8. He does simple PDA.

A lot of people aren’t crazy about showing affection in public. However, if a guy wants to date you, he’ll be more than willing to do a little PDA. He’ll hold your hand, wrap an arm around you, and even pull you close. A guy who is only trying to hook up won’t do this. He won’t want to show affection in public and make others think you’re dating.

9. He never ignores you.

One of the worst things a guy can do is ignore you. This means he doesn’t really care about you at all. If he doesn’t care that you’re reaching out to him and trying to talk, then he doesn’t want to date you. If he does this and only gets back to you late at night or when he can hang out that day, he just wants a hook up.

10. He talks about his goals and dreams.

Getting to know someone on a personal level is very intimate and it requires a lot of trust. If a guy opens up to you in this manner, he really likes you. A guy won’t just talk about his goals and dreams if he wants to hook up because he won’t want you to know all of those things about him. If the guy you’re talking to is being open and honest about where he sees his life going, it’s because he wants you to know him better so you can decide if you want to date him.

With all of the trouble guys can cause, tricking you into hooking up when all you want to do is date them can be by far the worst. Luckily, these signs will help you determine what a guy is really after.