10 Subtle Signs He Has a Crush on You

How do you know if a guy has a crush on you? You can never be certain unless he confesses right out, but there are some signs to look out for that will give you definite clues. Just make sure you aren’t interpreting them to suit your view, as opposed to what’s really the case!

He Wants to Spend Time With You

If he likes you, of course he wants to spend time with you! If he’s brave enough to show it is another thing entirely. Maybe he asks you to come along with your friends to something him and his friends are doing. Or he simply sits next to you in school, hang out with you at break time, or makes a point always to greet you in the corridor. If he’s a bit braver he might ask you to come out with him for something. Of course this can mean he wants to be friends too; it all depends on the intention behind what he’s doing. So check what he’s like when around you.

He Texts You 

Another sign of interest is that he loves talking to you and when you’re not around – texting you. If he’s sending you funny texts he might want to impress you. Or if he’s asking you questions he wants to get to know you better.

He Flirts with You 

If he’s complimenting you, teasing you and generally flirting with you, chances are he has a crush on you! The only thing to watch out for is that some men are generally flirtatious – with everyone. Those guys don’t need a crush to flirt with someone, they naturally flirt with everyone.

He Gets Nervous Around You

A telltale sign a guy has a crush on you is that he gets nervous around you. Why else would he be nervous? Unless he’s just awestruck by you in general, he likely has a crush on you if he gets nervous when you’re around.

He Looks at You

Ever found him sitting looking at you when he thinks you won’t notice? Most guys who stare at you do so because they find you attractive. Why else would they ogle you? Maybe one day you have chocolate on your cheek, but that’s not every day, is it? And if it was the chocolate, everyone would be staring, not just him!

He Compliments You

If someone compliments you, chances are that they mean what they say. For some it comes natural to compliment people, for others it doesn’t – for them it takes some courage to tell someone they like something about them. It’s simply a matter of how we were raised.

A compliment is just a compliment – we compliment friends, lovers, strangers, family and co-workers – but we don’t compliment everyone with a twinkle in our eye. If a guy is good at flirting he will definitively compliment you in a way that makes you blush. However, it doesn’t mean he has a crush on you. But if he goes out of his way to constantly compliment you, or he does so even though he isn’t a guy that normally compliments people, then he either really likes you as a person, or he has a crush on you.

He Pays Attention to What You Are Saying

Guys who like you will often pay attention to you. They might still remember what you said in class or at work two weeks ago because, well, they like finding out about you. I’ve had guys quote me on things I’ve said that I can’t even remember saying, because they were curious about me, so they paid attention.

Likewise, he might be asking your friends about you to try and find out more about you. This kind of curiosity is normally because of a crush.

He Teases You 

A big part of flirting is teasing – if he’s got that glint in his eye when he teases you, he’s probably attracted to you. If he’s really into you or not is another matter entirely. Attraction is one thing, really having a crush on someone another.

He Gets Jealous of Other Guys

A sure sign of someone having a crush on you is that he gets jealous of other guys. Sometimes friends get jealous too if they feel you spend too much time with someone else, or they don’t like a new friend of yours, but often it boils down to attraction.

He Goes Out of His Way to Please You 

Does he always bring you something nice? Or remember your preferences for something? Does he let you get ahead of him in the line, or always make sure to make your day better? Unless he’s an extremely kind and polite guy, his desire to go out of his way to please you means he likes you a little bit more than the other girls.

By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

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