Sometimes we don’t even know we hold onto resentment because let’s face it: while we are busy trying to make sure our boss understands we deserve a raise, attend the gym, meet up with friends and find the wo/man of our dreams we don’t necessarily pay attention to that little nagging voice in our head. We’re too busy sorting out what’s happening in the moment to pay attention to our subconscious, but that very same subconscious we aren’t paying attention to also leads us in the moment without us realizing. So it’s time to pay attention.

After I cured RSI (repetitive strain injury) in my hands by reading Dr. John Sarno’s book about how emotions affect our body I will never again think that ignoring emotions is  good idea because it doesn’t only impact your moods and your relationship with yourself and others, it also impacts your health.

So let’s look at how to resolve resentment, shall we?

Why Do We Hold onto Resentment? 

If you really think it’s no big deal that your neighbors have an annoying habit to play music at 8:45 every Saturday when you want to sleep to 09:00, why does the resentment get lodged in your subconscious? You love your neighbors and you don’t want to create a fuss by telling them their little habit annoys you. So why is there still resentment?

And why are you still holding a grudge towards the kid that bullied you in school 20 years ago? It’s not something you think about, your life is far away from that kid now, so why is the resentment still there if someone reminds you of your childhood? You think you ended up in a good place, that life taught you things by putting you through the school of hard knocks, so why the resentment?

The truth is, it’s not just resentment we carry with us. We carry with us any emotion we experienced unless we faced it. Not wallowed in it. Not got lost in it. But faced it. Sat holding it in the palm of our hand until we’ve truly felt it, then let it go.

I tend to liken people to houses: if you keep the doors and windows open emotions flow through you and as pleasant, or unpleasant, as they may be, they don’t hurt you. The problem comes when you let something in that you try to suppress, or hold onto, because it gets stuck.

You are annoyed with the neighbors. But you don’t want to think about it, because they’re nice people. So you suppress your anger. You don’t face it and let it go, or walk over to your neighbors and kindly ask if they can move their music schedule by fifteen minutes. You just knock your feelings to the side. And chances are, if you do that with the neighbors, you do it with other stuff too. So your annoyance with the neighbors will only be one of a hundred little things bugging you that you never cared to resolve. Meaning you have a pool of resentment inside.

As for the bully from your childhood, most likely you were really upset when you were being bullied. You were hurt. You went through emotional upheaval. And you didn’t face those emotions, looking at them until they evaporated as you realized the bully had no real power over you (however real it seemed at the time). No, you engaged with the emotions. Either you felt stuck in them, or you battled them. To battle something, it needs to exist. It won’t go away. It will only be punched about.

How Resentment Affects Us

To be honest I don’t know how your resentment affects you. It may come out in snapping at your partner for a really small issue as inside there are a hundred other issues that just got triggered by that one small thing. It may come out when you’re having a bad day and your guards are down. Maybe you’ll flip on your boss, maybe you’ll yell at your kid, maybe you’ll tell your parents to bugger off because even though what they did just then was practically nothing, you’re carrying a dam of resentment within you that just exploded.

It could be that your resentment towards someone from long ago makes your react in certain ways today. For example, if you were bullied by that kid and someone does something in your life today that reminds you of that kid, you react funnily. Your resentment ends up being targeted at the person today instead of the person from yesterday.

Resentment may also be wallowed in. You could spend your time thinking about all the wrongs someone has done to you. As the story goes, the person you’re imprisoning with your thoughts is no other than yourself though. Your resentment will make you unhappy. Instead of thinking about rainbows and sunsets you’re thinking about the injustice of someone else’s actions. You’re trapping yourself in misery.

As mentioned, Sarno’s book (Healing Back Pain: The Mind Body Connection) alerted me to the fact that emotions can turn into physical pain. Sarno argues that suppressed anger causes pain as the body invents physical aches and pains to distract us from the anger. And it can be for small things. Sarno used the example of a mother who had a baby and was tired and feeling angry at the baby for screaming because she wanted to sleep. Then she felt guilty, because of course the baby couldn’t help screaming. Her brain didn’t want to deal with her anger towards her baby because she felt ashamed of it, so instead she ended up with back pain. Other times it can be anger/resentment because we feel the pressure on us to always exceed is too much, or we don’t stand up for ourselves.

Sarno says that most of us would rather face the emotions than the pain – sometimes it’s truly very small things – but we don’t because we don’t even realize what’s happening. The brain is seemingly programmed and, as I said earlier, we’re too busy with what’s just in front of us to realize what’s happening inside of us.

Letting Go of Resentment

So how do you get rid of resentment?

One way is to make a list. List anything and everything you resent in life and people, as well as in yourself. Then go through the list, item for item, and feel the resentment. For each item, close your eyes and explore exactly what you feel. Hang with the feeling till you realize it’s just a feeling. Let it evaporate.

You should also look at the resentment you feel for people in your life currently and deal with what needs to be dealt with coming from a place of love, or a place of all seeing wisdom, as opposed to emotional entanglement. Tell the people who you feel resentment for due to their actions that what they are doing is hurting/annoying you. But come from that place of rational wisdom, or love, not of resentment. It’s not about telling them about your resentment (normally anyway), but about resolving the issue; the thing that makes you resent them. You don’t have to be angry with them for their habits, you need to explain to them why you don’t accept them, or would like them to change them.

Of course, beware you don’t resent people for misunderstandings, or because of things they truly can’t help. If, on the other hand, your resentment is founded in a serious issue and things don’t change after a talk, you may need to step away. Being around people and situations that make you resent them is not healthy. Not at all.

Also, if you have trouble letting go of something someone’s done, remember that most people are like a cause and effect equation: they only do what they do because of what they’ve been through. They never learned to take charge of their emotions and act in spite of them. They’ve been slaves to the events in their lives and the thoughts resulting from them.

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1. Guide Me – Hold Me Tattoo

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A “guide me”/”hold me” tattoo with a compass and anchor tattoo is just what you need to strengthen the adoration you and your loved one have for each other. Have the signs inked on your wrist, and whenever you look at it, you’ll be reminded that there’s someone in your life who truly cares about you.

2. Bow and Arrow Tattoo

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A bow and arrow couples’ tattoo looks sleek and discreet. For couples, it could mean that you’re made for each other. Choose a simple design that perfectly portrays the strong bond you two share. Have it anywhere on your body, although on the side of your hand looks the best.

3. “We Got This” Message + Heart Tattoo

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“We got this” and a matching heart is a perfect tattoo for couples who know that love is hard. But whatever happens, you have each other. No matter how tough things might get along the way, you’ll be there for your loved one to ensure them that everything will be alright.

4. X & O Matching Tattoo 

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The perfect tattoo is sometimes the simplest. An X and O couples tattoo on the wrist looks adorable. It is made for couples who just want something to remind them of their better half. Our whole existence is a sequence of Xs and Os. Make yours stand out!

5. King & Queen Wrist Tattoo

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Be the queen of his heart, and let him be the king of yours. Be proud of your relationship, and let the whole world see it. A King and Queen couples’ tattoo with two separate crowns for him and her look adorable anywhere on your body. However, somehow on the wrist, it’s more obvious and alluring.

6. Artistic Sun & Moon Tattoo

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The love you hold for your better half is eternal, artistic, and complicated. A sun and moon tattoo conveys that you can’t live without one another. Decide on the most interesting design, and make your tattoo stand above the crowd. Put your imagination to good use and come up with your very own design.

7. Yin & Yang Combined 

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A blended Yin and Yang tattoo looks absolutely incredible on the upper arm. If you’re looking for inspiration, this is it. The matching couples tattoo clearly lays out that you’re made for each other, and that you’ll always find a way to make things work, no matter how difficult life gets along the way.

8. Heart Fingerprint Tattoo 

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Fingerprints are unique. Get his on your wrist, and have him get yours on his. Wrap it nicely in a heart tattoo and complement it with the forever sign. It’s perfect for couples who truly believe that the love that they share is for eternity.

9. Minimalistic Bracelet Tattoo 

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Minimalistic tattoos are in trend this season. A bracelet-inspired couples tattoo – a thicker model for him and thinner for her – looks genuine, interesting and sleek. We love the symmetry and geometric allure the tattoo exudes. It’s definitely a unique idea you might want to consider.

10. Heartbeat Couples Tattoo 

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A heartbeat-inspired tattoo exudes pure love and adoration. We love the simplicity of the design, and the way these two tattoos match each other when the couple joins their hands. How much do you trust your loved one to get something like this inked on your hand?

11. Plain Love Message Tattoo  

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A plain “love” message tattoo for him and her is just what you need to showcase the true feelings that you have for one another. It’s inspiring and intimate because it is meant just for the two of you.

12. Mr. & Mrs. Couple Tattoo 

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Looking for the perfect tattoo to replace the conventional wedding ring? Look no further and choose this cool “Mr./Mrs.” tattoo. It’s a very ingenious idea, especially because you can’t really lose a tattoo. It will be with you forever to remind you that you’ve found the one.

13. Yin & Yang with Sun & Moon Inspiration 

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A blend between the famous yin & yang, and sun & moon tattoo inked on your foot, and matching your loved one is the coolest idea ever. A match made in heaven!

14. “To Infinity and Beyond” Couples Tattoo

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The perfect love message imprinted on both your arm and the arm of your loved one. “To infinity” for you, “and beyond” for him exude sheer adoration. It is the kind of message that will be with you forever.

15. Sea & Mountain Tattoo

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This adorable mountain and sea matching tattoo is absolutely adorable. It is extremely well-made and realistic. Be the sea and let your loved one be the mountain. You know what they say about contrast – they can be a match made in heaven.

16. Wolves 

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Dot art has gotten a lot of attention lately in the tattoo industry. This pair of wolves for him and her looks stunning. The drawing is marvelous, and it will beautifully complement your wild personality.

17. Fabulous Wings

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They say we need wings to fly. A wings-inspired tattoo for you and your better half is just what you need to feel close to his heart. The art behind the above tattoos is fascinating. We truly love the artistic allure of the design.

18. Matching Anchor Tattoo 

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An anchor inspired tattoo on the side of your palm is all the proof that you need to truly feel your loved one close to your heart. Every time you look at the tattoo, you’ll be reminded that your better half has a tattoo just like yours. It’s a union and a commitment you’ll cherish for a lifetime.

19. Adorable King & Queen of Spades 

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A king & queen inspired tattoo can be another great idea for a couples’ tattoo. Ink it on one of your finger – preferably the ring finger – so that you can always remember how much your loved one means to you. The tattoo idea is one of the most unconventional, but somehow it works perfectly.

20. Heart with a Key 

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How’s got the key to your heart? Heat a heart and key matching tattoo and express the bond you have in the most original way possible. Get it on your leg or arm, it doesn’t really matter as long as the message is obvious.

21. Disney-Inspired Matching Tattoos

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In love with Disney? Now you can make your passion part of your love story with a colorful and fun tattoo idea. Use the color blend that you like the most and dare to be different. Be that bubbly, happy couple all the time.

22. Lovebirds Tattoo 

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Forever in love! Love birds matching tattoos somewhere only you and your better half can see it is the perfect proof that you’re meant to be together for better and for worse. What more can you wish for?

23. Birds, Birds, Birds 

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Fly away together to the moon and back with this birds-inspired matching tattoo for couples. Get them inked on the side of your hand so that you can remember how strong the connection you two share is.

24. Lion & Lioness Couple Tattoo

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Sometimes you need a very powerful symbol to remind you that you can overcome all challenges together with your loved one. The perfect tattoo – a lion for him & lioness for you. Because you’re wild, and your love is passionate and it can survive everything in the real world, which is almost like an untamed jungle.

25. Watercolor Crowns 

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Watercolor tattoos are in trend these days. They’re really cool and minimalistic. Choose imperfect shapes because no relationship is perfect, and put your imagination to good use. He’s your king for all eternity, and you’re his beloved queen. Cherish each other in a tattoo.

26. Empty & Full Triangle Tattoo

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The most impressive tattoos are sometimes the simplest. An empty triangle tattoo for you, and full triangle tattoo for him is a clear sign that you need each other, and that you can only feel complete when you’re together. Your love is honest and limitless.

27. No Lies – Just Love

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A real relationship can only be a complete relationship when there are no lies involved. A “no lies – just love” tattoo can be a daily reminder that you have the most honest and truthful bond. He’ll never disappoint and he’ll understand you. Sometimes the simplest tattoo means more than a thousand words.

28. Cute Little Stars 

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Identical star tattoos will never go out of style. Every time you look at it, you’ll be reminded that your heart belongs to someone really special in your life. He’s understanding and he’ll always think of you whenever he look at that tattoo. You’re the one for him, even though you’ve got the simplest design.

29. Forever Matching Tattoo 

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Forever together – that’s the plain meaning of a forever sign tattoo. Have it inked on one of your fingers, and you’ll never forget about your better half, no matter how tough things might get in the relationship. The idea is a classic one, but the message conveyed doesn’t really need any further explanation.

30. Love Message Inspired Tattoo 

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Choose a love message that perfectly portrays how strong your bond is, and then decide on a font. You can even handwrite the message to personalize your tattoo and make it stand out. All that he is, is all that you’ll ever need, right? Choose the font that best inspire you both.

31. Hand Wings & Heart

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Together you have wings to fly and overcome all challenges. Get a single wing and have him get the other. When your hands combine you’ll be together and ready to conquer the world. In the middle, make a heart. Keep one half, because without him your soul and body are not complete. Opt for the most original design to tie your bond and make the relationship even stronger.

32. Forever Couple Tattoo 

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A forever/together tattoo on the back of your hand might seem like a bold tattoo. But if you’re 100% sure that you’re meant for each other, why not? Forever together, right? Make it count and choose this bold and artistic design that doesn’t need any further explanation.

33. The Sun & The Moon

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The whole world would seem incomplete without the sun and the moon. Just like your relationship – without each other, you are incomplete. Stick to the simplest design, and make it work. It’s such a minimalistic idea that really conveys originality. Choose the symbol that fits best with your personality.

34. Dot Art & Flowery Feathers 

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Dot art is the latest trend in tattoo design. It’s also a very inspiring trend especially when you get a delicate, very alluring tattoo. Make it like a puzzle-like tattoo to remind you that you’re meant for each other every day of your life. Floral tattoos, or any other design works, as long as it appeals to your senses.

35. Watercolor Puzzle Heart

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A watercolor tattoo with an empty and full heart is the best puzzle-like tattoo that you can get. Choose the color blend that you love the best and dare to do things differently to mark the love bond you two share. At a first glimpse, the design looks incomplete. But the trend is really hot right now, and we know for sure that it will prevail years from now on.

36. Cut-Out Hearts

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An inspiring tattoo idea in plain black exudes sheer originality. Basically, it conveys that you’re incomplete without him and that you would do anything to make things work, no matter how challenging things might get along the way. Have the tattoo inked right above the ankle, on your leg to feel that he truly lifts your spirit when you’re down.

37. Tinkerbell & Peter Pan Inspired Tattoo 

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Tinkerbell is Peter Pan’s match made is heaven. The idea can work for you and your loved one too. You can always adapt it to make your style and personality. We love the artistic vibe that goes with the tattoo – it’s magical and it is perfect for couples who fancy fantasy movies and fiction books.

38. Graphic Couples Tattoo 

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Graphic tattoos are the most difficult to ink. But the above design is simply breathtaking. We love the puzzle effect too. It conveys completion and pure adoration. Go for an oversize and handle the pain – at the end of the day, no pain no game. right?

39. Creative Sun & Moon Tattoo 

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A very creative and colorful idea for a couples tattoo. But somehow, it works and it looks incredibly original. Customize the idea, and make yours different to have a unique matching tattoo that strengthens the bond you share. Red and blue are royal colors that go really well together. Let him be blue like the sky, and get the red. You’re fire!

40.  Joint Heart Couples Tattoo 

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Without him you’re lost and you feel incomplete – that the plain message of a half heart tattoo. But when you’re together everything fits perfectly, and whatever happens, you can overcome when you’re together. Have your half heart on your inside palm, right on the finger. When you join hands the heart will be complete, and will your soul.

41. Buck Deer & Doe Tattoo 

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A buck deer and doe matching tattoo on your forearm is very powerful. Both of you are wild, but you want to be wild together and live your life to the fullest sharing the best adventures. Wild animals inked somewhere on your body have a very strong effect, especially when those animals are noble and statuesque.

42. Him & Her Crown 

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It’s simple – you’re his queen and he’s your king. You mean the world to each other, so why no seal the deal with a bold crown tattoo? Choose a simplistic, but powerful design and let them speak. Have them in plain sight for the whole world to see.

43. Skull Couples Tattoo

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A tattoo idea for the cold hearted. But it’s a good one because it states that you want to grow old together, and live your life as a strong couple for all eternity and beyond. Choose a design that inspires you and settle on the one that best appeals to your sense and personality.

44. “Guide Me/Hold Me” Couples Tattoo

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Guide and support him no matter what and let him hold you at your toughest times. Together you can do it all, and this tattoo idea is living proof that nothing is impossible when love paves the way. Be strong but do it together!

45. Name Initials & Forever Symbol 

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Yours and his initials separated by the forever sign is all you need to feel him close to your heart no matter where you are. Don’t let distance or anything else ruin the love you hold for each other, and work your way to building a strong and fruitful relationship.

46. Love Message Couples Tattoo 

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When you have love, everything can happen. Life happens when you’re happy and confident that the person standing right next to you will never disappoint you. Get inked with a simple love tattoo and your feelings will last forever, both on your body and in your heart.

47. Matching Tattoo to Replace Wedding Rings 

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Wedding rings are overrated. Why not get a tattoo instead? Have it inked on your ring finger, and choose a design that inspires you the most. A compass inspired tattoo idea conveys that no matter where you are and how far you go, your better half will be there with you and for you. It’s such a cool and romantic approach!

48. Mickey & Minnie Tattoo 

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A black Mickey and transparent Minnie Mouse is the kind of tattoo for couples who love Disney characters and movies. It’s a fun idea, but it has the most powerful message – that you belong with your better half, and that without one another you are incomplete. Have inked wherever you want, and be proud: you have the best companion by your side who will never let you down.

49. Matching Arrows 

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A matching arrows tattoo split in half doesn’t really need any further explanation. When you join fingers, you’re one; you are complete. A very chic and minimalistic idea that only couples who truly love each other can understand. Feel free to customize it how you see fit, and you’ll never feel alone; even when he’s not by your side.

50. Circles 

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What goes around comes around, and because life is a continuous circle, this idea of a tattoo exudes eternity. Get two – one thicker for him and one thinner for you. This way you’ll be together always and forever. Keep it simple and the end result will knock your socks off. Ink it on your leg or arm, and let it be a reminder that together you’re indestructible.

Relationships are tough. Only the strongest, most confident and honest couples can survive. Tattoos are like marriage; but marriage for the soul. Before you get one, you have to be sure that he or she is the one. Stick with designs that inspire you; designs that conveys love and adoration. They really don’t have to be that complex. As long as you know what it means, it should be enough. Which of the 50 couples tattoos we mentioned best inspires you? Would you get a matching tattoo with your loved one?

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I will tell you this much: a submissive wife is, nine times out of ten, able to have a better relationship and marriage. Submissive wives give their husbands what they need emotionally and physically, and return get the same respect in terms of protection, being provided for, and of course heard and loved like no other. Granted the submissive lifestyle won’t be a good choice for all the ladies out there, and that’s perfectly okay, but if you’re curious about the submissive lifestyle or simply want to try something new to see if it works for you and your partner, you’ll want to learn how to be a submissive wife.

First things first: This does not work for abusive relationships. Although you shouldn’t subject yourself to an abusive relationship in the first place, it can be even more devastating if you choose to become more submissive to your man. An abusive man WILL take advantage of you and make you feel more of a slave than a loving girlfriend or wife. Only respectful, caring men with a good heart and mind will be able to truly appreciate a submissive wife. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship or with someone who simply doesn’t appreciate or respect you, leave them immediately- especially before trying out the submissive lifestyle.

There are a lot of reasons why one may want to be a submissive wife. Statistics show that when a woman is submissive to her husband, the divorce rate and infidelity is lowered because both partner’s needs are being met; remember, it’s not just about doing everything for your man, he will need to reciprocate the love and respect to you as well. It’s also proven that a submissive wife is more likely to ‘get her way’, without any fighting, nagging, or annoyances. Sounds like something that might work for everyone, right?

You are not a slave. Always remember: a submissive wife is NOT a slave and she is NOT being used. A submissive wife is someone who is ALWAYS respected and adored by her partner. She is not a slave and she is NOT putting down the female sex by choosing this lifestyle. If you do not want to be a part of the lifestyle, then do not put others down for choosing it. There is nothing wrong with a submissive lifestyle, if it done properly and everyone involved is receiving what they want and need. At the end of the day, if you feel like you are being treated unfairly or not right while choosing a submissive lifestyle, it is obviously best to discontinue or talk it out with your partner to get on better terms.

Now let’s talk about the how.

As with everything in life, discovering a new lifestyle or making your life better takes practice and a little bit of help. We are going to break down a few of the steps and tips and tricks to becoming a great submissive wife to your husband.

Listen to him. When your guy is having an issue at work or is frustrated with a friend, he wants to turn to you to let these feelings loose. The best thing for you to do is simply listen and hear him out. He doesn’t need you to offer up any advice- unless of course he asks for it. But at the end of the day, if he is mad about something he doesn’t want you to tell him he was wrong or what he should have or could have done. This will only make him feel worse about the situation. Say the least possible and just let him know that you are there for him with listening ears and comfort when he needs it most.

Ask him for help. Men LOVE to help their lady out. They see you as a ‘damsel in distress’ and they want to be the hero. If anything goes wrong- whether it is the car needing a tire change, the sink needing some simple fixing, or you need help getting through a recent death in the family, always look to him for help. He will love feeling like a big, strong man- perhaps even a hero- to his lovely little lady. I’m sure there are more than enough things you CAN do on your own, but what’s wrong with giving your hubby an ego boost and letting him feel like a million bucks while you sit back and watch?

Let him be the provider. If his job can be enough financial stability for the two of you, then let him be the provider. Men thrive on being able to provide for their families, and you allowing him to be the provider will make him feel like a big man again- and maybe even your hero, again. Of course this won’t always work for all family situations, but if he has the means to provide, then let him provide for you. That’s his dream, whether he wants to admit it or not.

Don’t nag. Nagging is not feminine, it is not enjoyable, and is probably the worst way to try and get what you want. I mean, lets face it ladies: nobody likes to be nagged and a husband feels annoyed and terrible when his wife is nagging him about something. He is less likely to do it after he has been nagged or yelled at. You need to come at him in a more feminine manner, and make it seem like you need him to do this for you. You need to make ti seem like you’re his little lady and you need him to fix something. So instead of yelling and nagging, try asking him as sweetly as possible. Rub your hand through his hair or caress his cheek. Finish off your request with a kiss on the lips or cheek. Come at him in a feminine way and he WILL respond. If all else fails, you can also shed a couple of tears so he feels he HAS to do it to make you feel better. He won’t mind at all- as long as it makes you happy!

Attend to him. Once again- this isn’t you being a slave or becoming any less equal to him. Remember: being submissive should be respectful and great for everyone involved. That being said, your man is attending to all of your needs. When you ask for something, he obliges. When you need him to be your hero, he is happy to do so. He works hard all day every day to provide, and has vowed to protect you in every situation imaginable. The least you could do is attend to his needs and wishes when he asks. When he wants something simple like a beer out of the fridge or for his pants to be washed for work tomorrow, simply say ‘Okay, honey’. There’s no need to tell him to do it himself or simply tell him ‘no’. Attend to HIS needs, and he will be more than happy to attend to YOURS as well. It goes both ways, ladies!

Look nice for him. You are always beautiful to him, whether you’re in your sweat pants and loose t-shirt or that sexy little black dress and heels. But you need to make sure you are keeping up with yourself so he doesn’t lose interest. It may sound a little bit shallow, but that’s how most men are. I’m not saying you need to curl your hair and walk around in high heels and a sexy outfit all day every day, but keep up with yourself. Make sure your hair isn’t an absolute wreck, your eyebrows are done, and your face is freshly washed and moisturized. Try to keep up with your body as best you can. Take pride in yourself and he will be grateful. And when it comes to date night? Really shake things up to make sure all eyes are on you for the entire night. He will certainly enjoy that.

Keep the house cleaned. If you’re not working, then your job is to take care of your home (and children if you have them). While your husband is at work making money to provide for you, make sure he is coming home to a nice, organized home. And if you’re really in the mood to make him overjoyed and appreciative of you, toss in some dinner and dessert. He will love coming home to his beautiful wife, a lovely home, and a delicious meal that’s sure to satisfy his cravings.

As you can see, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a submissive wife. In fact, it can be a huge game changer for you and your husband as you see the both of you reaching new levels of happiness and respect towards on another.

Are you a submissive wife? How do you like it?

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He Never Texts/Calls First

If you’re always the one having to send the first text message or making the phone calls (which he probably only answers half the time- if that), then he definitely isn’t interested in you. Trust me- when a guy likes you, he will be dying to talk to you as much as he can, and won’t be afraid to make the first move because he actually wants to know more about you and find out how you’re doing.

His Replies are Short

We all know those texts: You send: ‘Hey, what’s up?’ and they respond: ‘Nm’. It is probably one of the most annoying things ever, isn’t it? I mean, here you are trying to start a conversation and they don’t even have the decency to even try and continue the convo. If you’re getting super short replies every single time you guys talk, then he isn’t engaging with you and he’s definitely not into you. Granted some guys don’t like to text, but even those who despise texting will give it their best effort for the girl they like.

He Doesn’t Ask About You

When you like someone, you want to get to know them, right? Well, if a man isn’t bothering to ask anything about you- whether it’s your favorite movie, how your day was, or how you’re enjoying you’re new job- then he certainly isn’t interested in you, in fact he doesn’t even care whatsoever.

He Doesn’t Open Up

So you don’t really know anything about him and he isn’t willing to share much detail about him or his life; what can you make of that? While there is a small bunch of people who have trouble sharing anything and like to keep almost everything a secret, the majority of individuals are willing to share with the one they like. So if you find yourself completely oblivious to who he is and what his life is all about, he isn’t sharing for a reason- he isn’t interested enough to share it with you.

You Hardly Talk

As mentioned before, it is only natural to want to talk to the person you like 24/7. You want to bond with them, learn about them, and simply enjoy their company whether it’s true a text message or a phone call. But he barely talks to you? He never calls? It could take hours before he replies to the smallest text? Um, yeah. Sorry, girls, but that simply shows a lack of interest on a very big level.

He Never Has Time to Hang Out

Everyone is busy in their lives, but everyone will make time in their busy schedules to see the one they like. If he is always busy and takes days or even weeks to set up a date or even simply a hang out time with you, then he’s simply not interested in you and doesn’t even want to be around you.

He Flirts with Everyone

Ever notice that the man you have your eye on is constantly flirting with everyone? And he even flirts with other women in front of you? Ladies, if a man is truly interested in you he is NOT going to spend any of his time or attention on another woman, especially in front of you where you can see it! Any man that’s flirting around openly, not caring what you think or how it makes you feel, is definitely not interested.

He Doesn’t Get Jealous

Everyone gets jealous when they see the person they like flirting or checking out someone else; it’s only natural. But if you notice that the guy you like could care less if you made out with another man in front of him, well, I hate to tell you but he simply doesn’t care. He isn’t interested in you, and therefore it doesn’t bother him if you get intimate or just simply flirt with other men in front of him.

He Doesn’t Introduce You to Friends or Family Members

The only reason why a man won’t introduce you to his friends or family members is simply this: he is not serious about you. At all. He doesn’t want to invest in a deep relationship with you. I mean, don’t expect him to do this right away; but if you’ve been waiting for months and nothing has happened, then you need to let him go and find someone who wants to get serious and have you around the people he loves the most.

He Talks About Other Women

If this isn’t a sure fire sign he is not interested in you, then I don’t know what it is. Think about it: why on earth would a man that likes you bring up other women he likes? That’s just ridiculous, and it is something that just plain doesn’t happen. If you hear him talk about other girls in front of you and hear him even say he likes one of them, he is DEFINITELY not interested in you, and you need to ditch that crush right away.

He’s Constantly Texting/Messaging Other Women

There is nothing more annoying than someone on their phone when you’re around them, especially when they take forever to respond to you. If he’s busy messaging other girls the entire time you guys hang out, it’s a sure sign he’s not interested.

He Only Wants Sex

Forget about any emotional attachment; the second you guys are together he is trying to make a move, and if you don’t respond the way he wants, he most likely ends the date early. Yeah, this guy isn’t interested in who you are, only what you have underneath your clothing.

But He Doesn’t Touch You in Public

This kind of man doesn’t want anyone to know he’s ‘with’ you, because he wants to make sure all the girls around knows he is single and ready to mingle. If he is distant with you in public and avoids any kind of PDA, then he’s looking for someone else.

You Just Know

Sometimes your intuition can just tell you he isn’t interested in you. Perhaps it is the way he talks to you, how his body language is, or some other hint that gives it away. If you’re feeling like he isn’t interested in you, talk to him about it or simply move on to find someone who truly engages in you and wants to go for something serious and long-lasting; you deserve it!

Ladies, have you ever been with a guy who just wasn’t interested in you? How did you know he wasn’t interested? Share your stories with us!

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Three Reasons He Might be Faking

It’s unfortunate, but sometimes men (and women too!) say ‘I love you’ without really meaning it. It’s a shame and truly something that messes with the heart on the other end, but to help reduce the risks of being played into a fake love, we are going to give you the three top reasons a man might say ‘I love you’ without meaning it.

He Wants to Get Into Your Pants

It’s unfortunate, but almost every man on planet earth knows that a woman is an emotional creature that is more likely to ‘give it up’ if she feels a man is in love with her. A lot of men use this ‘trick’ on women to get them into bed, then afterwards they’re up and leaving. It’s important to notice when a man is just saying ‘I love you’ to sleep with you- it’s pretty obvious if he does it while you guys are heating things up or when he’s obviously turned on and touching you every which way.

He Feels Forced to Say It

When a woman is in love with a man, she obviously wants him to know and is dying for him to reciprocate the answer. That being said, a woman in love will probably tell this guy over and over again just how much she loves him, just waiting for him to say it back to her. If you’re bugging him constantly about the ‘L’ word and he finally says it back begrudgingly, he most likely felt he HAD to say it just to get you to be happy. Does he mean it? Probably not.

Fourteen Reasons He is Being Real

Of course not all men say ‘I love you’ because they want some sex or feel they have to do so; so how can you tell when a guy is being genuine? There’s fourteen simple ways to tell whether or not he is the real deal and his love is pure.

Says it First

The majority of men don’t like to say ‘I love you’ first. It may be that they are scared, they don’t want to come across as needy, they are afraid of rejection, or simply their ego doesn’t want them to be the one being all emotional. Some men are even afraid of being in love period. All of these things make it hard for a man to finally say the big ‘L’ word, so if your guy is the first one to say it, you can rest assured he is probably being genuine with his feelings; especially if he doesn’t do it before or after intercourse.

Sounds Genuine

With some people you can just tell when their being genuine. Perhaps they have a certain way of saying something they truly mean, or their body language says it all. When he finally tells you he loves you, pay very close attention to how genuine he is actually appearing. Pay attention to his body language from head to toe and really get a good look at him when he says it.

Looks Deep Into Your Eyes

One quick and easy way to judge a man’s authenticity when he tells you he loves you is to notice where his eyes are. Is he looking at the ground, trying to avoid eye contact altogether? He could either be really, really nervous or simply not mean it at all. But nine times out of ten, when a man is truly in love and ready to say the words, he will look deep into the eye’s of his woman to ensure he has her full attention when he tells her such an important thing. So when the time comes for ‘I love you’, make sure his eyes are locked on you. His eyes should be as if they are looking deep into your soul, telling every inch of your body that the love is meaningful and true.

Says it Randomly

A guy that is in love won’t have to be prompted to say ‘I love you’, and once they get comfortable saying it, they will want to say it all the time. His love will happen at random when you are least expecting it, because he wants you to know he is being for real and he wants to make you smile as much as he possibly can. And he absolutely won’t leave the love to only ‘I love you too’s when you guys are talking.

Holds You Close

Men that are truly in love with their lady want to hold them close all the time; not just when you guys are getting ready to kiss or watching a movie, but all the time. It’s only natural! I mean think about it: when you truly love something or someone, you want it next to you all the time and you just want to feel close; that is exactly how a guy feels when he falls in love with a woman. They simply can’t get enough of their touch, and after an embrace, it is hard for them to let go.

Talks About the Future With You

Let’s just be brutally honest right now: a guy that is not one hundred percent serious about you and is absolutely not in love with you will not talk about the future with you! They don’t want a future with you and they are still holding out for the woman of their dreams to finally make a solid commitment to. So, if your guy is talking about the future- whether it’s the kind of house you two want or a vacation you should take during the summertime, take that as a big indication he is truly in love with you and wants you to stick around for a very long time.

Kisses You Passionately

There’s a big difference between a peck on the lips and a passionate kiss, and an ‘I love you’ should only be ended with a long, passionate kiss, where the love is being strewn up and down your spine as your tongues press against each other in a remarkable way. It’s the kiss where you can almost see fireworks, the one that melts your entire being. That’s the passionate ‘I love you’ kiss you will only receive from a man that is truly in love with you.

Makes You Feel Special

So you want to watch a terrible chick flick and he obviously would rather watch grass grow? But yet he watches it anyways? It must be love. So your back kind of hurts, but you don’t want to go get a massage? He will massage it for you. So he sends you an adorable text message just to light up your day when you are halfway through work? These are all things a man will do for his woman that he truly loves with all of his heart.

Is Jealous

Men AND women get jealous when they are in love. If your boyfriend doesn’t care that a guy is flirting with you or that he may have noticed you eye-balling that cutie across the room, then he probably doesn’t care about you at all. Jealousy just goes hand-in-hand with being in love; it sucks, but is certainly is true!

He Loves to Be Close to You

Don’t be surprised if a man that says ‘I love you’ wants to see you almost every day of the week; I mean, why wouldn’t he? The two of you are in love and being apart is almost treacherous. Yes, some personal space is okay, but for the most part the two of you want to be together all the time. You want to go on dates, make dinners together, or simply just sit at home snuggling watching a movie. The point is: you guys want to be close all the time.

Smiles Genuinely At You

You know that big smile a guy does when he is staring into your eyes like you’re the most beautiful woman in the world? Yup, that is the smile of a man who is smitten.

Does Special Things for You

Men love to surprise and spoil the women that they love, whether it’s a little ‘I love you’ poem on the fridge before he leaves for work, or a gorgeous diamond necklace on Valentine’s Day. The big things AND the little things are all part of the package, and you’ll get both if a man is really in love with you.

He Brags About You

A man that is seriously in love will also want everyone around him to feel super jealous of his wonderful woman, so if you’re overhearing him bragging nonstop about you, he probably loves you.

You Just Know

Sometimes the best way to know if something is genuine or fake is to use your own judgment. We all have intuitions, and if yours is telling you that he is really in love with you, you may be right. On the other hand, if everything just seems ‘off’ and ‘not real’, then pay close attention to him and figure out what the truth really is. Either way you need to follow your heart.

How do you think a man acts when he is really in love? What are some of the signs? Share with us your thoughts and stories below!

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He is Genuinely Interested in You

We’re not just talking about skin-deep issues; he actually cares and is interested in you and what happens in your life. A guy that’s not serious about you won’t ask you about that interview you just had or how things are going with your aunt in the hospital; he will only ask you about your day or other artificial things such as that. If he is asking you deep questions about you and your life, and actually remembers the things you tell him, it’s a sure sign he is actually serious about you.

Text/Call Responses

A man that is serious will tell his woman why he took so long to reply, just so she doesn’t get upset or curious about what he is doing. On the other hand, he will also be upset if YOU are the one that takes forever to reply to a text or call without a reason. I’m not saying you have to reply in 10 seconds or he will be mad; I’m saying if you were stuck doing something for 3 hours and he gets a little upset, that’s a good sign. Reassure him you were doing _____ and continue with the conversation.

You’re Automatically His Plus One

There’s an event or occasion coming up- is it assumed you will be his date, or not? If he always turns to you to be his plus one in any given situation, he is serious about you and doesn’t even want to think about making another lady his date for the evening.

He Asks Your Permission

Okay, he doesn’t necessarily ask for permission– he is a human being and allowed to do what he pleases (you don’t control him). But if he lets you in on what he is doing and checks to see if you will be okay with it, then he wants to know your opinion and actually values what you have to say- that’s a clear sign he’s into you on a serious level.

He Introduces You to Friends and Family

Point blank: if a guy is not SERIOUS, he will NOT introduce you to his friends- and especially not his family! But if you’ve got an invite to the cousin’s party, you’re there for football night with the guys, or you’re even on a texting relationship with his mother, this is an absolutely huge sign he is serious and wants to show you off to everyone.

He Brags About You

Guys like to brag about their woman; unless of course they don’t think she is the real deal. When a man is serious he’s going to be telling the whole world that he has the prettiest woman on the planet and isn’t afraid to show it. In fact, his friends and family may get sick of him bragging about you so much. But you don’t mind that, do you?

He Wants to Cuddle

Well, here we are. Now we’re talking about the more intimate side of the relationship, and it’s probably the one that will give you the biggest hint. When the two of you are done ‘doing the deed’, does he suddenly have to leave? Or does he stick around to watch a movie with you and cuddle with you in his arms? A man that’s just there for a quickie won’t want to cuddle, but the man who is serious about his woman will want to be there even after the ‘fun’ is over.

Hopefully whatever man you’re dealing with shows these 7 signs that a man is really serious about you. If not? Maybe it is time to have a deep conversation with him!

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1. Make Yourself Busy

If he is taking you for granted, you need to start worrying less about him and focus more on yourself. That being said, pursue your passions! Go out and do something nice for yourself, like getting your nails done or your hair done. Take up that dance class or art class. Do things for YOURSELF and keep yourself as busy as possible.

2. Forget About His Birthday

His big day is coming up, and maybe BEFORE you had big plans to make him feel special. But why should you go out of your way to make him feel great when he’s making you feel so insignificant? Forget about his birthday. He will be mad, but maybe this is what you need to do to show him he doesn’t deserve anything special until he starts treating you right.

3. Hang Out with Your Gal Pals More

So he didn’t make plans for the two of you this weekend- who cares! Go hang out with your girlfriends and have an absolute blast. When he calls you last minute to hang out on Saturday night, simply let him know you’ve already made plans with your gals.

4. Cancel on Him

If he is always expecting you to make time for him when he wants to do something last minute, then you need to CANCEL on HIM. Let him know you’re not just waiting around for him when he snaps his fingers and expects you to show. Let him know you’ve got a life of your own and you’re not going to be taken for granted and then be expected to show up on every date. YOU call the shots!

5. Hang Out with Your Guy Pals

Your boyfriend won’t take you somewhere you want to go? He’s not giving you the attention and affection you deserve? I’m sure there’s a few guy friends of yours that would love to take you out and make you the center of attention. Make it an innocent hangout with a guy friend, and let your guy know why you’ve decided to hang out with him instead. This is a surefire way to let him know you’re tired of being taken for granted and he can either step up or let another man do the job.

6. Don’t Tell Him Everything

Maybe you just got a new promotion- DON’T TELL HIM. Let it come into the conversation casually a few days later. He will be surprised when you tell him, but you can just let him know that he didn’t seem too interested so you didn’t think it would matter much anyways.

7. Don’t Put Out

Ladies, if he is taking you for granted, absolutely do not put out! He doesn’t deserve to explore your mind, body, and soul, unless he is treating you the way you deserve to be treated- hands down.

8. Make Him Make the First Move

He is probably used to YOU making all the moves, whether it is in private or in public. If you’re always reaching for his hand to hold when the two of you go out, DON’T. Let him hold YOUR hand. When you’re hanging on the couch watching a movie, make him kiss YOU first. Don’t do anything to him and he will get the hint real fast that he needs to step it up.

9. Go on a Trip By Yourself

Before, you may have wanted to go on a trip with your boyfriend. But your boyfriend simply isn’t treating you right, and you need a break. You need to focus on yourself and pamper yourself. So go ahead and take a trip by yourself. He will be shocked that he wasn’t invited, but you can let him know exactly why he won’t be accompanying you on this little vacation.

10. Talk To Him

The best way to get through to someone and solve an issue is to TALK TO THEM. They may NEVER know what they’re doing wrong unless you speak up! Have a deep, heart to heart conversation with your man and see if the two of you can come to a conclusion about what needs to be changed and fixed. He may be very apologetic and completely unaware, and fix the way he is treating you immediately.

11. Dump Him

You know what? If all else fails, you need to dump him! Don’t waste your time with someone who is taking you for granted when you can be with someone who treats you like a precious jewel.

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Reasons Men Like a Shy Girl

1. You’re a Mystery

As we said before, YOU DON’T TALK MUCH! He doesn’t know a thing about you because you keep to yourself. This appeals to the man because you are essentially a mystery he wants to uncover. He doesn’t know what’s hiding in the depths of your brain and he certainly doesn’t have a clue about how you’re feeling- but he wants to. He wants to explore your mind in every way possible and tap into that shyness to get you to open up. It’s fun for him and it’s a big plus for many men out there.

2. You’re Intimidating

Whether you know it or not, being shy can actually be very intimidating; and guys love a gal who is intimidating! But why is this so? Well, you don’t talk a lot and you keep to yourself. This could come across as being conceited or arrogant, which could actually scare a lot of guys away; however, the bulk of men will be intrigued by this fact and want to take on the challenge.

3. You Appear More Feminine

Your shyness is undeniably ADORABLE and you probably dress a lot more conservative than an outgoing gal. You keep your makeup to a minimum and like to show off your natural beauty. This, to the male eye, is extremely graceful and beautiful, and what guy doesn’t a girl with tons of grace and femininity? You will catch his eye with your natural beauty and feminine appearance very quickly.

4. You Make Him Feel Secure

A girl that has a lot going on in her life with plenty of friends and activities may make a man feel like he’s not the number one thing in her relationship, and may even feel insecure about his girlfriend. But a shy girl who has plenty of time on her hands to make her boyfriend a priority, and takes the time to get to know him and show him affection, in turn makes him feel very comfortable and secure in the relationship- which means the two of you will probably last a heck of a lot longer.
5. He Wonders if You’re Not Shy in Bed
Okay, ladies- let’s just be honest here. That quote ‘lady in the street but freak in the sheets’ applies a lot to a shy girl. You appear as the innocent, quiet, feminine beauty that doesn’t like to talk a lot, but are you the same way in the sheets? He will be dying to know if you’re the type that lets loose in the bedroom, and that will honestly be a dream come true in his eyes.

6. He Will Be More Protective of You

Everyone knows that men love to be the ‘knight in shining armor’. They love to help a lady in distress and do anything he can to make her feel better and calmer. Well, the shy girl probably has hard time sticking up for herself. This gives her boyfriend plenty of opportunities to be overprotective of her and be her guard in hard situations. He can truly be your ‘knight’ in all situations and he enjoys taking care of you in that aspect.

7. There’s Less Shy Girls than Outgoing Girls

Especially nowadays, finding a shy girl is a dime a dozen; it seems like every girl in this world is desperate for attention or is incredibly outgoing. That being said, men love to find a woman that’s not like all the rest. Pair this exclusiveness with your graceful beauty and mystery, and you’re the whole package to a guy who is looking for his next girlfriend.

8. You are more Trustworthy

You’re not likely to talk with a lot of guys when you’re shy (let alone other females!) You’re also not the type to hang out at parties or head out to the clubs with your gal pals. You prefer to do something lowkey and you love just being around a few people at once. This, of course, means that you’re less likely to cheat or find yourself in the midst of a potentail cheating situation. This makes you a lot more trustworthy in the eyes of your boyfriend!

9. The Relationship Will Last Longer

Because you are shy and have a hard time opening up to someone, you and your boyfriend are more likely to take things slow and take the proper time necessary getting to know each other before taking any big leaps. Taking this time and digging deep into each others’ minds is the ideal recipe for a strong, long-lasting relationship; and men know this.

10. He Feels More Romantic with You

Just like being  her knight in shining armor, a man will take extra time to give his shy gal the romance she needs. He is more likely to do those cute, adorable, romantic gestures with a shy girl than with any other girl, because she possesses the qualities needed to bring out his manly side. He wants to make you feel like the princess you truly are!

Reasons Men May Not Like a Shy Girl

Okay, it’s not all sunshine and daisies when it comes to being shy, and there’s a lot of reasons why a guy may be turned off by this type of girl. Here are a few of the reasons a guy may not like your shyness or become annoyed by it during the relationship.

1. You Don’t Open Up

I understand it’s hard for you to be open with someone- you’re shy! But if you’ve been dating someone for a few weeks or months and you’re STILL having a hard time opening up and continue to keep your shy wall up, he may become annoyed and lose hope in the relationship.

2. You May be Too Clingy

Of course guys love to get affection from their lady and they love to help her out the best he can! But, there’s a point when it becomes too much. If you’re obsessively clingy and don’t give him any air or if you’re always needing help with things you could probably do on your own, he might get turned off by your ‘helpless’ personality.

3. You Don’t Speak Your Mind

In an argument, you never say anything and just agree with him. When he asks you what YOU want to do tonight, you always say ‘whatever you want to do’. You expect him to read your mind because you never tell him what’s going on. Guys don’t like this. They love shyness, but they still want you to speak up when the time is right; they don’t want to be in absolute control of the relationship and make up every single decision.

Ways to Be More Attractive

You’re beautiful as is, girls! But if you want to hone in on your shyness and be even more attractive to the cuties out there, here’s a few ways to make yourself even MORE attractive.

1. Be Confident

This goes for any girl, whether they are shy or outgoing or some mix between the two. Confidence is undeniably the sexiest thing a girl can wear, so work on your confidence levels and you’ll see yourself catching more attention than you ever thought possible.

2. Don’t Change Yourself

Never, EVER change yourself- for anyone! You don’t have to talk when you don’t want to, you don’t have to go to those big social events, and you don’t have to wear risque clothing if you don’t want to. Stay true to yourself, even if some people may be annoyed by your shy personality. You are who you are, so wear it proudly.

3. Use Gestures More Often

If you don’t like to talk (which I know you don’t!) use your facial expressions and gestures to make more of an impact than words ever could.

4. Be Strong in Yourself

Whether you’re shy or not, you need to learn to stick up for yourself and be strong! This means saying NO when you need to, coming up with ideas for date night, and standing up for yourself in any and all situations. Just because you are shy does NOT mean you should let people walk all over you just because they THINK that they can; be strong, ladies!

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1. You Think About Their Happiness More Than Your Own

It’s hard to imagine, but it’s true. All of the sudden you want to make them happy more than anything else in the world. Their happiness becomes more important than your own, so you’re willing to compromise or go above and beyond just to see them smile.

2. You’re Completely, One Hundred Percent Comfortable with Them

When you’re in love with someone, you get to this point where you feel absolutely comfortable with them. They can see you at 2 o’clock in the morning with your face mask on and your silly bunny pajama onesie and you’re not embarrassed. You can tell them literally anything and they won’t judge you for it. The two of you can talk about anything and there’s never a dull moment, even when you’re just hanging out watching tv together.

3. You Don’t Judge Them

It really doesn’t matter what they say or what they do (unless it’s something serious, like drugs or something along those lines). You accept them for who they are. You understand that their past is in the past, and you’re both in the present. You understand that there’s some embarrassing things that will happen during the relationship, and that’s okay. You trust him; he trusts you; and you simply don’t judge him- and that’s that.

4. You Like to Look Your Best for Them- Even Though You Don’t Have To

He loves you. He doesn’t care if you do your hair or your makeup to go over to his house or go out on a date, but you do it anyways. Why? Because YOU want to look your best for him. You want to see his eyes light up when he sees you. You want to show him that you’re getting all dolled up for his eyes, and his eyes only- not anyone else. That being said, you enjoy getting dressed up for your man- EVEN THOUGH you know you don’t HAVE to.

5. You Love Their Quirks

This is a BIG one. Everyone has their quirks, right? And if you’re not in love with someone, they may be annoying or get on your nerves. But when you love someone? YOU LOVE THEIR QUIRKS. As hard as it is to understand, for some reason the quirkiest things they do become the cutest little things you can’t get enough of.

6. You Want to Be Around Them All the Time

You love their company. It really doesn’t matter what the two of you are doing. I mean, you could be taking a trip to Paris for the week and going to all the little cafes and restaurants and dancing till the sun comes up, or you could simply be watching (yet another) football game on the couch with a beer. All you want to do is be in his presence, because that’s your favorite place to be. It makes you happy and it feels like home.

7. You Don’t Even THINK About Cheating

Okay, listen- you are human, and you’re certainly going to find other people attractive; that’s only normal. The difference is, you don’t lust for anyone else. You don’t want them. Yes, they may be handsome, but that’s as far as your mind goes. You don’t think about pursuing them in any way, shape, or form. As aforementioned- cheating does not even cross your mind, not even once.

8. They Give You Confidence and Reassurance

There is something about being in love that gives you this great sense of confidence. Your partner makes you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world, and that you can do anything you set your mind to. Such a beautiful feeling.

9. You Dream of the Future With Them

This is the love of your life, so of course you are going to dream about the future with them! You will probably think about living together someday, maybe plan your wedding in your head years before it actually happens, and you may even think about how your kids will look. But seriously, you want a future with him and this future together excites you.

10. You Never Want to Lose Them

Of course you don’t want to lose him. He’s your love, and he’s your world. You couldn’t imagine a day without him by your side! Even during the stupidest fights, you don’t want to break up. You want to work through any problem because deep down in your heart you never want to lose them.

11. They Make You Happy Nonstop

You will certainly find yourself smiling throughout the day, with this undeniable happiness that fills your entire body and soul. It’s such an amazing feeling and you can’t help but feel all giddy day in and day out- thanks to them, of course!

12. You Worry About Them

He’s starting a new job? You’re probably worried and nervous for him. He’s not answering your phone calls? You’re probably worried something may have happened. He’s not feeling well? You’re probably worried and want to take care of him. Needless to say, you worry about him and feel the nervousness and stresses he feels too.

13. Feeling at Peace with Them

There is a sense of undeniable peace with him. As you’re lying in his arms, you feel comfortable, you feel happy, and your entire body and mind are at peace. You are in love.

14. Wanting to Show Off Your Love to Others

You may be annoying your friends and family, but you just can’t help but talk about him all the time! You’re madly in love with him and you want to share your love and how wonderful your man is. You’re probably flooding social media with lovey-dovey pictures because you just can’t keep it inside any longer. Hey, with a love so amazing like that, why would you want to keep it a secret from the world? (And let’s not even BEGIN to mention the crazy PDA coming from you two- hugs, kisses, and hand holding everywhere you go!)

15. Excited to See Them

It could be a quick lunch together in between school or work, and you’re still so excited to see him. Your heart races every time you’re about to get together, whether it’s big or small. You look forward to the next time you are going to see him, the second the two of you are apart. Needless to say, you’re quite frankly addicted to his company and can’t stand to be apart from him!

Ladies, if he is giving you butterflies just by smiling at you, you can’t wait to see him, you feel absolutely happy and comfortable with him, then you’re in love. What do you think? What are some other ways you feel when you’re in love?

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Signs You are Just Dating

1 There’s Probably More than One

If you are JUST dating a guy, then he is probably dating other girls too (and you may be seeing other men as well). I mean, why not? The two of you have not made a commitment to be loyal and only see each other, so dating is free game. You’re both free to explore other options until you’re sure you can settle on someone, whether it’s this guy or another. So, when you’re dating, almost be certain there’s other dates happening without you.

2 You Don’t Know His Friends/Family

If you aren’t his girlfriend and he’s not your boyfriend, you’re probably not being introduced to family and friends; that’s reserved for more serious relationships. So keep that in mind: he isn’t going to bring you around until he is sure you are his girlfriend and the two of you have the potential of lasting a long time, and you probably wouldn’t do that with your friends either.

3 You Don’t See Each Other TOO Often

Sure, you’re dating; but you’re probably not texting and calling twenty-four seven like a couple in love, and you’re probably not seeing each other all TOO often. You’re probably seeing each other for a date once, maybe twice a week, and that’s it. Now, if the dates start occurring more often, then the two of you are probably working towards being in an exclusive relationship. But until then, dates that happen every so often is just that- a date- and nothing more. Consider how many times you’re seeing this guy on a weekly basis and also consider how many times you’re texting each other or calling each other to determine which road you’re taking towards being in a relationship.

4 May or May Not be Intimate

Some people go on a date and find themselves under the sheets that very night- and that’s okay, if you’re not waiting until the two of you are exclusive. He is probably seeing other girls and you need to know that. On the other hand, some women wait until they’re in a solid relationship before giving up the goods. Whatever the deal may be, dating could be a friends with benefits type thing, or you could be holding out until he asks you to be your girlfriend.

5 Nothing too Serious

Dating should be fun and casual, getting to know someone as much as you can before leaping into a relationship. That being said, it’s nothing serious. Like I mentioned above, the two of you probably aren’t talking nonstop and probably don’t hangout too much. The dates are fun, but you’re not exclusive so you can’t be mad when he is seeing someone else at the same time. You can’t be mad if he’s texting other people or not making time for you. It’s a casual deal until the two of you decide to take your relationship to the next level, so jealousy and getting mad about ‘girlfriend’ things is completely out of the question until the two of you are exclusive.

Signs You are in a Relationship

1 You’ve Made a Commitment to One Another

Once you are in a relationship, the two of you should be monogamous with each other. There is no more dating other people, and there is definitely no more sleeping around. You make a commitment to be with each other and that is it. He has asked you to be his girlfriend, and you accepted- and that’s that.

2 Strong Connection

Two people who are in a relationship with one another are undoubtedly going to have a very deep and strong connection with each other. You know your boyfriend well, and he knows you incredibly well too. He should be your best friend and your lover simultaneously. The two of you should be able to be perfectly comfortable in a room together even in the silence, but you also have the ability to talk for hours on end without losing the fun of the conversation. You should be able to tell him anything without judgement, and he do the same for you. There is undeniable trust in your relationship, no hidden secrets or lack of loyalty.

3 Looking for a Future Together

When you decide to enter into an exclusive relationship with someone, it isn’t just for fun and giggles; you are deciding to take a step forward with this individual because you truly see a potential future between the two of you. And not only should you see the potential, but you and your boyfriend should actively be working towards that future goal. The two of you should have similar goals that you both want and will both work for. Now, I’m not saying get married in a month and start having babies right away; but, you should have FUTURE goals that you’re both looking towards, and it’s a-okay to have short term goals as well like a promotion or finishing school. And don’t forget- you both should be each others’ cheerleaders, offering encouragement at every turn.

4 Met Family/Friends

Like I mentioned earlier, if you’re not in a relationship, you’re not being introduced to anyone close to him; and that’s the way it’s supposed to be. HOWEVER, if the two of you are now in a relationship, then you should be introduced to family and friends very soon after it’s made official. You may meet the friends first just to ease into everything, or you may jumpstart to a family gathering. Either way, you’re no secret and he will be introducing you to his loved ones as his ‘girlfriend’.

5 It’s ‘Official’

Okay, so, obviously if he asks you out to be his girlfriend and be absolutely exclusive with him in a monogamous relationship, then you’re in a relationship. This can also mean you make it ‘official’ on social media such as Facebook, and adding your status to other profiles like Instagram or Twitter as well. Everyone knows you’re together and it’s an official thing between the two of you- no questioning it!

What do you think are some differences between dating and being in a relationship?

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