What to do When He Stops Texting You Suddenly

We all dread the moment when a guy just stops texting us for seemingly no reason at all. Everything was going great, you got along really well, and you felt like you had a connection. Then suddenly, he stops texting you.

It’s as if he didn’t really care at all. We have a million thoughts running through our mind in that moment. Did we do something wrong? Are they mad at us? Did they find someone else? The truth is, it’s really difficult to know what to do when he stops texting suddenly. Luckily, we have a few tips for you.

1. Reach out and ask if they’re there, in a playful way.

Don’t immediately start asking, “Why aren’t you responding?” or anything that seems rude and like you’re upset. Even if you’re mad, just send a text and playfully ask if they’re there. Something like, “Hey stranger! It’s been a while, what’s up?” That’s enough to make them know you’ve realized they’re being distant, but it’s playful enough that they’re not afraid if you’re upset.

2. Think about if he mentioned his busy plans.

Perhaps he told you about his really busy week and that he won’t have too much time for fun. He could just be really busy and you forgot he told you he would be. Or he may just be really busy and forgot to tell you about it. Your best bet is to just think about the stuff he’s mentioned coming up so you can know if he’s just busy or ignoring you.

3. Don’t freak out and start accusations.

Accusing them of something right away will ruin anything you had. Even if you see them tag other girls on Facebook and won’t even text you back, don’t start accusing him of seeing other people or anything like that. This will just make him angry and want to avoid you more.

4. Don’t text more than twice without a response.

Repeatedly texting him when he stops texting you suddenly is a terrible idea. You will not only annoy him, but it’ll feel as though you’re super insecure and that’s no attractive. You never know what he’s doing. He could just be really busy and you’re bombarding him with too much clinginess. Back off and wait for a response if you’ve already sent two unanswered texts.

5. Do not call.

If he’s not texting you back, he won’t answer your call. The worst thing you can do is sit there and repeatedly call him when he hasn’t even text you back. So don’t do it. I know it may be tempting to try and get a hold of him, but you’re only hurting yourself and your chances of making things work with him.

6. Do NOT try to talk to his friends.

This is another HUGE no-no. You can’t just sit and call his friends to see what he’s doing and why he isn’t responding. However, if you’re already friends with a friend of his, too, you can ask if they’ve heard anything from him. Don’t get your hopes up, though. Usually, if a guy is suddenly not texting you back, his friends won’t even know about it.

7. Remember that you didn’t do anything wrong.

It’s easy to think that you messed up and that you did something wrong in some way. You have to remember that you may not have done anything wrong. If you were just being yourself and you weren’t saying insulting things, he may have just discovered that he doesn’t have feelings for you. And that’s okay. Not everyone we meet is going to be crazy about us.

8. Give him some space.

Another thing to do when he stops texting you suddenly is to just give him some space. Don’t question it or push the fact that he hasn’t responded. Just let him be and go about your normal life. If he gets back to you within a few days, simply ask why he was so busy. If he never gets back to you, he wasn’t worth your time in the first place.

9. Stay busy doing fun things.

Keep yourself busy as a means to distract you from the fact that he stopped texting you suddenly. But don’t just be busy, go have fun! And you can even post about those fun things on social media. This will not only remind him of you and the fact that he hasn’t texted you back, but he’ll also want to be involved with all the fun things you’re doing. It’ll up your chances of him responding to you if you’re out having a good time.

10. Ask him why he isn’t responding.

If it’s been a few days without a response, you can go ahead and just shoot him an honest text. Say something like, “Hi! Haven’t heard from you lately. I thought we had a connection, what happened?” If he still doesn’t answer that, then just ignore it and move on with your life. Sometimes guys don’t have the balls to actually admit when they want to pursue other options so they won’t even tell you if they’re not interested.

 

Bonus Tips:

If you’re still looking for things you can do when he stops texting suddenly, these bonus tips will help. In addition to everything I’ve already stated, you have to remember these, too.

1. Move on.

Your life should never revolve around a single person, especially if you’re not even technically dating. Therefore, you have to move on if he stops texting you suddenly. If he’s not willing to be an active participant in your life, there’s no point in waiting around for him. Move on with your life and continue doing what you did before.

2. Don’t respond if he gets back to you weeks later.

If a guys goes MIA for a long time and then suddenly responds to see what you’re doing, it’s because something didn’t pan out with someone else. Don’t respond to him. He’s most likely trying to keep the line of communication open with you so he has someone to fall back on. Don’t fall for it.

3. Continue living your life.

Don’t put your life on hold for someone else. You should never just up and stop living just because someone didn’t text you back. You can give yourself a few days to be upset, but then you have to get back out there and continue right where you left off.

Some guys are tactless and will ghost you without a second thought. Instead of waiting around for them, you should be doing these 13 things.